Post # 1
I know FOUR couples who got engaged THIS WEEK ALONE.
Even though I know I am pretty close to an engagement myself, I still feel a little annoyed with every subsequent engagement. I know it isn’t a race yadda yadda yadda but I don’t even want a holiday engagement anymore bc it seems like the attention is on everyone else right now!
Post # 3
((HUGS)) I was a waiting bee this time last year and I definitely remember the happy and frustrating anticipation. Is it strange that I miss it this year? Relax and it will come, but you could have two proposals like I did (one to him and one from him lol). Good luck and if you need to vent defintiely come here!
There is always the ever popular engagement chicken, making that actually takes your mind off of it, or you can make cookies, peanut brittle (I have a great recipe) etc.
Post # 4
Whoa! That’s a lot of people! Yep, after Christmas, all attention will really be on you!
Post # 5
This. It’s so frustrating!! You make a good point about not wanting to share the attention though.. Your engagement should (and will be) super special! I’m not expecting (nor am I hoping for) a holiday proposal this year.. I think an engagement should be reason enough to celebrate and shouldn’t have to be shared with other holidays and events! Keep your chin up, Maggierose!!
Post # 6
Am I missing something here?! I am anticipating a proposal as much as the next person on these waiting boards. But I could care less if its before a bunch of people or after. Since when is getting engaged about having attention on you?! I just want a proposal for the mere fact of being engaged to my sweety. In fact I really don’t want ANY attention on me. I just never have viewed being engaged as a moment to indulge in attention. Isn’t it about being content that you’re boyfriend wants to spend the rest of his life with you?
Post # 7
Thanks guys. I appreciate all your support
@Cash000: I guess I just feel sad b/c….for the last six months or so I had to have many “talks” with my guy about next steps. Now that it is finally happening, I feel like it was partly because I had to convince him to do it, not something that came solely from inside him. When I see other people get engaged, I can’t help but think it was a total surprise for them and the guy just came about it on his own.
I know I don’t know their stories and I should be (I mean, I am) grateful that my BF now wants to commit to me…but I just almost wish it was more of a surprise. I know it will probably happen in the next month and I feel like we worked so hard to get here. I just wish it hadn’t been such a hard road and more of an unexpected, on a whim, something totally and solely from him. I know the grass is alwways greener and I should be 100% grateful we are at this point in our relationship but it just does put a little downer on it to see these others who maybe didn’t have to convince their bf as much as I feel I did…
Post # 8
Thats exciting that you are close though! That has to make hearing about others a little easier? I know two different sets of couples who will be engaged in the next few weeks and I am happy for them but it is so hard for me act as happy as I feel for them since I feel like I get punched in the stomach every time I hear anything about anyone else getting engaged while I have been with my boyfriend years longer and feel like I am so far away…. Since I know that my boyfriend hasn’t bought a ring yet or anything i get worried that with each engagement he is going to think that he needs to wait longer and longer to propose to me because he won’t want to take any of the attention away from the other couples… And then of course I figure that the newly engaged couple will pick the potential wedding date that I have set in my head. I’m a basket of nerves! But like I said, enjoy knowing that yours is coming! I’m excited for you!
Post # 9
@maggierose: I got engaged December 1, 2009, and I had to have a lot of talks with my guy (over years!). Everyone is different. Some guys are go getters, or serious romantics, some need a strong loving woman to show them the way!
Try looking at it this way “He was taking the commitment extra seriously and wanted to be really careful before proposing.” That’s not to say other guys don’t or aren’t, but I think just changing the way you think about it can help.
Can’t wait to hear about your proposal! Try not to think about it and just enjoy your holiday! (Oh and trust me, it’s much easier to be really truly happy for others once that ring is on your finger!)
Post # 10
I totally know how you feel. I’m pretty close myself and know 3 people who have gotten engaged in the last week – 10 days. I’m just excited for when it can finally be my turn…
Post # 11
I was thinking that too, about ALL the holiday engagements. but it is a romantic time of year and such a special time of year. Hang in there!
Post # 13
You’re not alone maggierose. I think its hard this time of year for everyone when it seems like everyone but you is getting engaged. You will have your special moment and nothing will take that feeling away from you. I’m waiting and pretty sure no proposal is coming this year so i’m trying to relax a bit but it’s still hard seeing everyone else getting theirs. Keep your head up 🙂 and if you need to vent, we’re here for you
Post # 14
I know 5 couples who have gotten engaged since Nov. It is funny because I was the only person who was proposed to during engagement season last year.
Post # 15
It is tough! I remember being on that side of it last year. It wasn’t so much that I was upset that he didn’t propose, I was upset at the people who kept asking if it had happened, when it would happen, etc. Honestly, if it would have happened, I would have called you, and I have no clue when it’s going to happen!
I haven’t seen too many engagements yet. I had a friend get engaged…last weekend, I believe. That was about it. My FI and I were the last ones of our friends to get engaged. I have a few cousins who are close to proposing, but I’m not anticipating anyone over the holidays.
Post # 16
I didn’t realize there was an “engagement season”. I got engaged on Christmas Eve, but it wasn’t planned that way or anything. Hm. Is it supposed to be like a holiday memory type deal?