(Closed) Engagement Stresssssss

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1716 posts
Bumble bee

You’re not doing anything wrong. Picking up and leaving everything you have ever known is scary as fuck!

Give yourself a week/end of doing NOTHING wedding related. It can wait a week. Relax and remember why you guys are getting married.

Post # 4
Member
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had a five month engagement! It’s certainly possible to do everything in that amount of time, and you have a whole year. There are compromises that can be made. Everything can and will happen in less time than you think it will. Seriously, it’s not worth it to worry so much.

Also, just remember- you don’t have to have a huge wedding. If it’s too overwhelming, you don’t have to do it. It’s a free choice that you can make. Don’t feel too obligated.

I agree with HelleCat. Being engaged is a special time. Remember all the reasons you want to get married, and take a deep breath!

 

Post # 5
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2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I felt like you did, absolutely overwhelmed. And then I ended up hiring a coordinator after screwing up some stuff and overtime i fall into a horrible panic, I email her or call her and she is literally the calmest person ever. We had to move our date and that helped too – suddenly we had an extra six months to make decisions. The only advice i can give is to take your time, you don’t necessarily have to get married a year after you get engaged.

Post # 7
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2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@piacavoleKt:  Ah, I see. Can you hire someone to help you plan?

Post # 8
Member
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think the time of engagement is full of mental stress and pressure even if ur not planning ur wedding quickly , it’s a time of change and pressure and most couples i know (even though they are happy, stable and sure they want to be together) fought for a brief period after they were engaged, I know I did , it passes. Just make sure during the next yr before ur weeding u relax, have me time and we time that has nothing to do with the wedding. Also use the help family n friends offer they really want to help.  ur not being a bad bride everyone does it different 🙂 

Post # 9
Member
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A year is actually a long engagement!  My wedding was less than 4 months after I got engaged.  Honestly, it’s only as stressful as you let it be.

Post # 10
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650 posts
Busy bee

I can totally relate, getting engaged and planning a wedding can be pretty stressful. Do you have a close friend back home that you can talk to and maybe plan some stuff together. You can browse through online stores etc. Would be nice if you have a friend helping you out so that you dont feel so alone

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