Post # 1
me and the boyfriend have been talking about getting engaged soon and well all of our friends and family are scattered across the states. Do you think a year and a half engagement is enough time for people to save up and attend a wedding? I’m afraid no one is going to be able to show up because of money so much so i’ve been thinking of elopement ideas. but in all honesty i want the dress, and the big party and ceremony
This topic was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by joychaos.
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC
I think 18 months is more than enough time! Have the wedding you want and can afford in the time frame that works best for YOU, and people will either come or not if they can afford it at that time. But remember, you won’t be sending out your invitations a year and a half in advance so your guests will only get a few months notice anyways!
Post # 3
oh….i see. didnt think of it that way. I guess no one will be able to make it at that point. yikes
Post # 4
joychaos: How big do you want the wedding? Does all your family live far away? Or are most/a good chunk right near you? I’m thinking a year and a half is a good time. I would send out your save-the-dates and invitations a bit earlier so they have plenty of time to prepare. STDs will allow them time to save, and invitations with early RSVPs will also give you a chance to see who can make it and who can’t in case your list falls short… then you can invite others that may have missed your initial list.
My SO and I are getting engaged very soon and we’ll be having our wedding the weekend of Sept 18-20, 2015. However, we also want a small wedding with only our closest friends and family (since my family is huge and we’re paying for it all on our own), so we’re having our wedding a day’s drive from half of his family (where we live) and a two day’s drive from my family and the other half of his. However, we still want people there! So we’re sending out our STDs at the 10-month mark, and our invitations at the 4-month mark.
Post # 5
damarajade: ohhh! I didn’t know the difference between save the date and regular invitations. thank you. we both don’t have a lot of family and they live pretty far on both sides. same for friends. The max would be 50 people who i can even think of adding to a list.
Post # 6
Are you concerned that you or your guests will be able to afford the wedding? 18 months sounds like a very reasonable engagement length with ample time for wedding planning. Your friends and family will attend as they desire, regardless of how long you give them to plan.