Engagement time?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC

I think 18 months is more than enough time! Have the wedding you want and can afford in the time frame that works best for YOU, and people will either come or not if they can afford it at that time. But remember, you won’t be sending out your invitations a year and a half in advance so your guests will only get a few months notice anyways!

Post # 4
2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

joychaos:  How big do you want the wedding?  Does all your family live far away?  Or are most/a good chunk right near you?  I’m thinking a year and a half is a good time.  I would send out your save-the-dates and invitations a bit earlier so they have plenty of time to prepare. STDs will allow them time to save, and invitations with early RSVPs will also give you a chance to see who can make it and who can’t in case your list falls short… then you can invite others that may have missed your initial list.

My SO and I are getting engaged very soon and we’ll be having our wedding the weekend of Sept 18-20, 2015.  However, we also want a small wedding with only our closest friends and family (since my family is huge and we’re paying for it all on our own), so we’re having our wedding a day’s drive from half of his family (where we live) and a two day’s drive from my family and the other half of his.  However, we still want people there!  So we’re sending out our STDs at the 10-month mark, and our invitations at the 4-month mark.

Post # 6
6440 posts
Bee Keeper

Are you concerned that you or your guests will be able to afford the wedding? 18 months sounds like a very reasonable engagement length with ample time for wedding planning. Your friends and family will attend as they desire, regardless of how long you give them to plan.

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