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NO not at all!!!!
We were planning before we were even engaged!!!!
Is there a ring coming or do you not want a ring?
The marriage is the important part not the rings or the wedding or anything else so you can do anything you want!
Ring is coming, he knows what he wants and what I like... its coming... I honestly just want him!!
That is wonderful and shows that you are getting married for the right reasons - you just made my heart smile!!!!!!
There's nothing wrong with planning a wedding without a ring just as long as you both are on the same page!! If he knows and talks about marriage with you, its obviously coming. There's nothing wrong with researching online for wedding ideas and of course nothing wrong with talking with other brides on WEDDING BEE!! This place keeps people sane...at least it does for me!
i would hold off until official, but then again, ring doesn't necessarily mean official. One knee asking "for real" is what I'd consider the real deal! If you're there, plan away!
So did he 'pop the question' officially?
My FI popped the question without a ring, and then we had a ring made from stones we found on the beach around us. My mom and his mom were more worried about it then anything so I wear my great-grandma's ring until the wedding band goes on, they didn't want a naked finger. It was a bit easier that way, because people were giving me a look when I said yay I got engaged and there wasn't a ring, which was really quite annoying so this made it easier to say yay I got engaged and people be immediately excited and then you explain the ring situation as they're peeking more carefully at your hand and ring.
Yes, has he proposed? My husband proposed without the ring and then we got it together. Can you buy an inexpensive "placeholder ring?"
We started before he "officially" proposed. We knew that we were going to get married so why not at least get things started. We visted venues and decided on other wedding stuff also. We talked and had an understanding so I'm all for the early planning....
Of course not! All that matters is if it works for the two of you!
Not at all...the engagement starts when both of you decide it is what you want and are both aware of that..lol..rings are NOT what makes an engagement.
Not at all!
I wanted to start planning even before I got my ring. But my fiancee didn't want me to announce about our upcoming wedding till after I got my ring. I waited for a couple of months and by doing that his sister got engaged and made the announcement first before us. Then after we announced ours they think we're copying them(oh! please)
Of course not! It drives me crazy that people think it's "not official" until there's a ring involved! We got engaged and it took us about two months to find the ring. We set the date and I bought my dress all before my ring was ready to be picked up.
You're engaged when one of you asks the other to marry you, not when there's something shiny involved!
Sure you can be engaged without a ring! As long as your guy means it, of course. My ex proposed to me without a ring, and then took it back a few hours later. It wasn't real, not really a proposal. He was just working himself up. Of course. Ha ha ha.
Needless to say, I won't be accepting a proposal that doesn't involve the financial commitment of a ring, but I also wouldn't expect my SO to do anything remotely as douchey as my ex. In your relationship I'm certain it's for real! All that really counts is whether the both of you have truly agreed to commit to a lifetime relationship. :)
We started the planning process before he actually had the ring...it doesn't hurt to start scouting things out/determining your likes/dislikes, budget, etc!
Definitely don't think it's a faux pas. Loveboy and I are doing prelimary planning and we're not even officially engaged yet. But we really may as well be ... so I see no problem with all that stuff ...
We started planning our March 2010 wedding in May 2009, before he asked me to marry him, before there was a ring. I had always hoped and dreamed, hoped and dreamed, that any marriage proposal would come as a great surprise. But real life doesn't always work as we hope and dream.
I knew that my fiance was intending to use the diamond that belonged to his paternal grandmother, which was later reset into a band that his father gave to his mother. I knew there would be a ring, and I knew there would be a proposal. But when it's May and you're planning a March wedding, time isn't your friend and practicality takes precedence.
We started visiting venues and I started dress shopping with nothing on my hand. Nobody said anything, and I'm not even sure anybody looked. And while I did feel very much like your average "modern-day bride" who doesn't need a piece of jewelry to make an engagement official... I did feel like something was missing. It's not that I wanted a ring as much as I wanted a proposal, which hadn't come at that point. So, planning a wedding without a ring and without a proposal felt a bit unusual.
Well, the proposal came and the ring came, too. But until then, we didn't make any formal announcements to family or friends -- though everyone close to us knew, since we had to clear the date with them before booking. But it wasn't until after the proposal that I told everyone, family, friends, Facebook, that it was official.
I'm finding that it's an extreme challenge to determine what I want, from the venue down to my shoes, without being influenced by the entity that I've begun calling the Wedding Industry Monster. We booked the venue, and I love it. I ordered my dress, and now I'm having second thoughts. My dress is all silk shantung, and VERY simple. Bateau-neck, A-line to the floor. No beading, no detailing, nothing. After ordering I felt relief, and then I started to second guess myself. "Well, I won't look like your average bride -- especially in NJ." Or, "Well, maybe it's a little TOO informal..." But something drew me to it, and I need to honor that.
This is my long-winded way of encouraging you to be vigilant about remaining true to yourself throughout this process, and about not being so influenced by external factors that you lose your sense of self. This is about the union, and your joy, and nothing else.
It's the promise you make to each other that determines whether you are engaged or not. The ring is a material outward symbol which has no powers over anything. Couples have gotten engaged and married for years on end without a ring in sight and it's just as valid as someone who does have a ring.
Not at all. I know plenty of couples who never had engagement rings.
Maybe to superficial people.
I asked my fiance to marry me and there wasn't a ring, and of course not one for me. That was 6 months ago, we are in full wedding planning mode and we still can't decide on syle of rings therefor there still aren't any. I get some wierd looks from people (particularly women) when I tell them I'm engaged and they grab my hand only to find a naked finger. It shouldn't matter, your comittment (sp?) should be about emotional qualities, not a rock on your finger. It's really easy to buy a piece of sparkly jewelry and let that speak for you, harder to actually mean it when you propose with no physical thing to show for it. Besides isn't the wedding band much more important and significant?
Don't let people's opinions lead you around, do what makes you and your fiance happy! Good luck to you!
Oh Yes! I'm glad to know we're not the only ones who did this! We've dated for 3 years and we both knew we were getting married it was just a matter of time. We announced our engagement a full month before he actually proposed one knee bent with rind and all. It was well worth it and we had already started planning 5 months before the proposal. So... you're totally alright!!
Not only did my parents manage to plan a wedding without an engagement ring...they've also managed to get through 30 years of a very happy marriage with nothing more than a simple gold band each. Mum can't take hers off now her fingers are a bit bigger, and Dad's had to bang his back into shape a few times when it got dented in the garden...but it can be done :)
No way is that bad! We're starting to plan (or at least brainstorm a WHOLE lot) and we won't be getting engaged until this winter... it's all about your situation and your relationship, not some chuck of jewelry or formal question asking. If you're talking about getting married and know where your timeline is headed, then it's good to get a headstart, in my opinion.
Then again, I'm one of those girls who is so indecisive sometimes that it'll take me the extra six months to decide everything, haha. In our case, it's also a matter of proximity - we're halfway around the world from each other, so there's a window of time this winter when I'm visiting him that I'm pretty sure he's going to propose (as in, he said just this morning, "wow, if you came to see me and then I didn't propose, that would sure be a let down, huh? don't worry though." haha), and both before and after that, I'll be planning from halfway around the world, so ... more time helps. :)
We started planning for our wedding before being engaged. Two months after, he oficially proposed! :)
Go ahead, good luck! :]
Yes, you are engaged. Get your planning done. You seem to know exactly what you want. The ring is secondary. It really is. But you have to stay true to yourself. If you really want a ring, and feel that is what you need to feel committed to the wedding-then that is what you need. But if you're happy to plan without a rock on your ring finger, i think you have great priorities. My FI proposed in front of my parents and his parents-traditional Mexican "asking for the blessing"-although we'd already bucked tradition by living together (LOL). I think it's really important to incorporate certain traditions that you feel are important to you, while still staying true and real to your priorties. It will make you an amazing wife, mother and life long friend. Good Luck and HAPPY PLANNING!
If you have decided to get married, you're engaged. FI and I were planning our wedding long before he officially proposed. I wanted a special moment when he gave me my ring and asked me to marry him, but it was for the tradition, not because I felt like we weren't engaged before. You don't need a ring or even a proposal to decide you want to spend your life with someone and plan your wedding day (and your marriage!). Proposals are a bit antiquated and sexist, honestly, but if you DO want one, you can have your cake and eat it too - I did!
We have been planning our wedding for a few months now. We bought a home together this past April, bought a new car this past week...I am still waiting on my engagement ring but I am ok with that because we both know itts only a matter of time. He wants to pay cash for it so nothing else is financed so he has been saving. We are going to Seaworld in Orlando on our Anniversary in October and I have my fingers crossed I get the ring AT SEAWORLD!!!
Of course not! If people are complaing about you not having I ring, I'd stick a mood ring on there and tell them to get lost. haha.
I had an engagement of about 15 months and had the ring for only the last third of it or so. Don't worry about it. :-) Good luck!
"Ring is coming, he knows what he wants and what I like... its coming... I honestly just want him!!"
Awww-- isn't that the way it should be? :)
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Is it a faux pas to have an engagement and full on planning a wedding with no ring?