(Closed) Engagements too close together?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

There’s no such thing as engagements being “too close together.” The excitement surrounding engagements tends to wear off in a few days, a week tops, for anyone who’s not the bride or groom. You’ll be fine!

Post # 4
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ditto what Mrs Grape said. As long as you don’t get married on the same day, it’s all good!

Post # 5
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think it’s a big deal at all!!! Now if your weddings were that close, it would be stressful on relatives, but engagments are perfect!

18 days!! YAY!

Post # 6
442 posts
Helper bee

I agree with the PPs! As you pointed out, you’ve been waiting for this moment, enjoy it when it arrives [in just 18 days!! EEE!].

As others have said, it’d be different if you’re talking the actual wedding, and it was being held the same day or something.

But frankly In My Humble Opinion, if someone got upset and pouted about someone else’s engagement being close to theirs… I’d find it to be a little immature and spoiled of that person.

Heck, some of these SOs plan for months and even years for their proposals! Don’t ask your SO to push it back. You deserve it! 🙂

Post # 7
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I got engaged within a week of 5 other couples. It was crazy! I just figured there’s an age you get to when everyone starts getting engaged/married all at once.

And besides, if your brother’s fiancee or brother was upset about the timing…just play dumb about knowing when your fiance is proposing. Say you had no idea!

Post # 8
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

No reason to delay the engagement! I’m sure she would be just as happy for you and her brother as she is for her own. I think the only thing to be mindful of is the wedding date and impact on relatives. Those are details can can be all storted out after your engagement. 🙂

Post # 9
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t worry about it. Hopefully he won’t change his plans because of this thinking! Engagements are totally fine being “close together,” And hopefully she’ll be just as genuinely excited for you as you are for her!

Post # 10
724 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think people need to get over “stealing the thunder.” I mean, seriously, you’d never be able to do anything if you were always worried about a family member, friend or something. As long as your wedding isn’t on the same day as your SO’s sister, who cares? It’s only SO’s family who will be “affected” and they will be happy for both of you. It’s not like happiness is in short supply and you need to ration it out…

Post # 11
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

You’ll be fine! That’s almost a month, which is plenty of time.

Post # 12
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My brother proposed to his now fiance about a month after I got engaged, so I might have some insight on this one.

I agree that you should not put off your engagement just because they got engaged first…..but you do need to be sensitive.  I would make sure to tell them first about your engagement when it happens – don’t let them hear through the grapevine about it.  My brother told everyone else in the family first and then let my mom tell me.  I was very happy for them and wanted to celebrate with them, but was offended that he wouldn’t tell me himself.

When choosing your wedding date make sure that it is not close to theirs. 

this is a very exciting time and 2 weddings in one family is so much fun!  It really is fun planning a wedding when someone close to you is going through the same thing!

Post # 13
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My brother in law proposed to his girlfriend 2 weeks after my Fiance proposed to me. I think you’ll be totally fine!

Post # 15
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

(Yay for 18 days!!!)

I don’t think you should worry about it.  You will have to take time between the weddings into consideration when you get to that point, but no worries with the engagement.

Such an exciting time!  I can’t wait to hear about your vacation!

Post # 16
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

AHHHHH I had this situation!! I honestly think you need to make your decision based on what kind of girl your Future Sister-In-Law is. A few days after SO and my 5 year anniversary (when I thought he was going to propose) SO’s sister got engaged. About a month into her engagment (now) Fiance told her that he was planning on proposing to me. She FREAKED out! She went on and on about how it is “her special time”.  This broke my heart. He ended up waiting 6 months to propose to me. 

I really realy hope you Future Sister-In-Law is a realistic down to Earth person. You deserve to be engaged, and I can’t wait for it to happen for you!

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