Engaging picture fright

posted 2 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

carmor:  Hey there!  Don’t fret…  I’m sure your photos will turn out wonderful! 🙂  I just went through this last weekend!

These might be obvious tips, but first and foremost, you may want to make sure you choose an outfit that doesn’t have busy patterns.  Color blocking in your outfit, or clean lines can help make you appear thinner in the photos.  In addition to that, keep your accessories to scale, and you may want to consider a darker color around your problem area. 

I’m not sure of the agreement with your photographer, but you may want to ask for the digital files.  I was unappy with some of the photos my photographer originally posted for us, but was relieved when I could crop them down so some of my problem areas weren’t focused on. 

Another suggestion might be to show your photographer a few inspiration pics… If she/he can get a sense of your style or the angle you like to be photographed, you might be happier with your photos.  Remember that photographers take pictures of people all shapes, sizes, heights…  If you’re worried about looking a certain way in the photos, don’t be afraid to communicate that.  It may impact some of the poses the photographer chooses.  

Lastly, if you’re going to do photos outside, maybe do a quick test run photo with your iphone before.  I wish I had done this… One of the outfits I wore did not photograph well, and I wish I had known before I saw all of the completed photos.  It looked perfectly fine in the mirror, but was not so hot in the daylight.   

Post # 4
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

carmor:  I feel your pain.  My fiance and I are both plus size as well, and our engagement shoot is next weekend.   In our case, we made sure our photographer knows what we are insecure about (In my case, I hate my arms).  I also made sure to find an outfit I absolutely love so I can feel as confident as possible.  I’m sure your photos will turn out great!  

If you need some inspiration, I’d suggest googling Pretty Pear Bride.  That site has lots of wedding and engagement photos of plus size couples and they are ALL beautiful!  

Post # 6
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Girl, don’t sweat it! Besides looking up flattering poses (and making sure he’s shooting from flattering angles, like above), and making sure you feel bangin’ in your outfit (get your makeup done, splurge on a dress you love, etc), it’s all about confidence. Honestly, if you feel self-concious in your photos it’ll show through and what you really want to capture is the beautiful love that you have for each other. Forget the photographer is there and focus on your amazing FI and your love will show through. 

Also, some very far away pictures with a gorgous backdrop mask everything. We had this picture taken, which I love, but honestly you can’t even tell anything about me in it. Perfect! 

Post # 7
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I just had mine done this weekend and I can totally relate to how you feel. Honestly, the best thing to do is just throw your insecurities out the window and have fun. Remember how in love you are and how happy and excited you are about your engagement and that will show in the photos. 


Like others bees have mentioned, feeling confident about yourself is also important. I know how hard confidence can be. Splurge and get your hair done (one less thing you have to worry about doing yourself anyway), and even your make up if you aren’t great with it. Buy some new clothes that fit and flatter your body but make sure you wear soething you are comfortable in, something that feels like “you”. You will feel most confident in clothes you normally wear.


Have fun with it! People told me this before my engagement photos this weekend and I was just like “yea idkk..” but it was fun! My FI and I just kept trying to make each other laugh and even the awkward positions are funny because its awkward. Just laugh at yourself and know that you arent and will never be perfect, so just be your best happy self and enjoy the time being engaged and excited for marraige!

Post # 8
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Ashelynn Manor

I just had my engagement session about a month ago, and I was feeling the same way. In the end, we did get some horribly unflattering photos, but there were still a TON that we both absolutely love. We decided to look past our insecurities, and focus on the love you can see pouring out of the photos. Even though we both still hope to lose weight, I will cherish these pictures always!

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