Enter the Ice Queen…

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’d be pissed off too, but carrying around this anger for the last 8 months probably isn’t doing your mental health any favors.

I’d just make yourself less available. Do your own thing. Don’t make any special effort. No fancy dinners!

Post # 5
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3412 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Time to move on… over 8 mths of this resentment brewing is going to make you spontaneously combust. 

Yeah they might have effed up Christmas (Christmas stories are made more entertaining when they are effed up!), but do you really want to sabotage your husbands relationship with his daughter by making things cold and frosty and awkward?

Heck, it sounds as if the daughter and her boyfriend don’t come to you on bended knee and kiss your feet you won’t be able to move on. And c’mon, we all know you are a bigger and stronger person than that, right? 

 

Post # 6
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1611 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d be FURIOUS! Stand your ground girl! (Guess I don’t get the popular vote lol)

Post # 7
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yeah… I’d be mad. If you can get over it, then do so. Personally if I’m super pissed about something then sweeping it under the rug doesn’t usually solve the problem – its only hidden temporarily and it festers until its really addressed.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@MrsPaperFlowers: But 8 Months of fury? Where do you get the energy to maintain that rage? I can barely hold a grudge for a day- I have too many nice things in my life to remain focused on the shitty stuff.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with @canarydiamond:, it seems really ridiculous to have harboured all this frustration for almost 9 months.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Olivepepper:  YUP! I’ve done it.. I remained totally and completely PISSED at my DH’s best friend up until our rehersal dinner when he finally appologzied.. I don’t think issues like this should just be “forgive and forgot”

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Please tell me you are NOT my dad’s live-in-girlfriend, because this sounds exactly like what her interpretation of our last Christmas would be!

I had the almost the exact situation play out last Christmas with me, my dad, and my SO. It took me a good while to get over all the chaos. I can’t lie and say our relationship is 100% like it used to be, but for the most part we’ve forgiven each other.

My dad is a BIG teddy bear, but he can be kinda vicious at times. I’m the master of arguing, everyone says I should be a lawyer, and my boyfriend was the innocent bystander that got dragged into the mess.

Honestly, I feel like it’s time to get over it! Why on earth would you waste 8 months being hateful and resentful instead of working things out, especially if you weren’t directly involved in the arguement?! I understand it cast a negative mood on the holiday, but life’s too short to still be pissed about last Christmas. Do some serious soul searching and get back to loving the good and bad of your family!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Olivepepper:  I’m still upset about something that happened in… 2007/2008ish. I don’t think about it on a daily, weekly, or even monthly basis. Its not like its weighing on my mind or stressing me out. But if that person shows their face then I am still as mad about it as I was the day it happened. I just avoid the them. I will get over it when they acknowledge the issue and apologize.

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