Post # 1
Any single ladies with no kids out there entering the world of step-parting because their FH has kids?
What have been your highs and lows? What kinds of issues do you want to discuss?
I’d like to start some threads on this… it’s not that talked about out there in day-to-day life…. which just blows my minds since like over 75% of families these days are blended! In reality, most people have been in some kinds of divorce/remarriage kind of situation whether it be as a kid having her parents split up and date/get married or as an adult going through a break up and then starting over… know what I mean?
So, let’s start charting this territory!!
Here’s one little thing to get us going: how do you call you FHs kids? your step-daughter/step-son? How do they call you? Step-mom?
If you have a different topic, start a new thread. I chose this “Family” board because it seemed to be the best fit. Perhaps eventually we need a separate board, perhaps “Step-ping Up” for Brides that are stepping up to the step-parenting plate! 🙂
Post # 3
We are the opposite. Mr. Tattoo is entering the world of step parenting because I have a 4 year old.
We talked a lot about the issues and concerns. The number one thing that comes up is discipline. He’s here with her everyday and there are times where she needs to go to time out or get a swat on her butt. At first I was really uncomfortable with it because even though I used the same form of discipline, it was different when he was doing it and I couldn’t help be mama bird and swoop in every time.
Also she does call him daddy Tattoo. Sometimes she just calls him Tattoo. Her bio dad is somewhat in the picture so we didn’t want to tell her that she had to call Tattoo daddy.
Other than that it’s working out well. Before we even started to seriously talk about getting together, I had to know that he would be okay with her 100%. He’s a family man and wants two more.
I guess my advice is to just let everything happen. Don’t force issues and don’t try to replace their mother. Be honest with yourself because your Fiance is a package deal. You can’t be with him if you don’t like the children. (There was a bee here in that situation.)
Post # 4
i agree with Miss Tatto, dont try too hard and dont try to replace their mother. My Fiance does not have kids but my father remarried twice after he divorced from my mother. The first step mother was horrible, but my current step mom is the best. We just always called her by her name and when talking to others i refer to her as my step mother. She has always been there for me in a motherly way but never tryed to be my mother.
Post # 5
i will also be entering the world of step-parenting but really have considered myself that since Fiance became serious 3 1/2 years ago. He has a son who now is 6 but was only 2 when we started dating so I do consider him mine and would do anything for him. He is definitly a very spoiled little boy. We do share custody with his mom so we have him Wednesday through Sunday and she has him Sunday Through Wednesday. I wont lie things come up and somethimes its not easy stuff to deal with but it is worth it.