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    gabrielleelise1981    August 28, 2010   Portland, Maine

    Bees,

    I am about to print up my STD envelopes, and of course, am second guessing some wording. I am feeling nervous about my RETURN ADDRESS wording on the envelopes.

    Should it be:

    Mr. Ron Lastname and Ms. Gabrielle Lastname

    Or the other way around? Who goes first? (we live together, in sin!) And, am I suppose to be “Miss. Gabrielle” (so prissy sounding! lol), or is “Ms. Gabrielle” ok? (I’ve never been married before, if that makes any difference). I've tried Google, but haven't gotten a clear answer.

    THANKS!!!

     
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    Arachna       nyc

    Ms. is just fine because it is officially the title for when a woman doesn't want to indicate her status, a married woman can be a Ms. a divorced woman or a never married woman, no matter, she can be Ms. if she wants to. 

    Miss I don't know as much about but does firmly indicate that you're not married. 

    IMO Miss sounds a bit childish and I love the crips sound of Ms. but it's a personal preferance so you should go with what you like best. 

    As to who goes first I believe that is up to you as well.  What sounds better?  Flip a coin?  If one of you was a Doctor that person has to go first.

     
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    gabrielleelise1981    August 28, 2010   Portland, Maine

    thanks! I don't like Miss. either.

    FH is technically a Doctor (phD) but goes by Mr. I'll stick with his name, than my name, I think it sounds better that way. :)

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    It is really a preference for Ms. or Miss.

    As far as who goes first I read that on all wedding stuff the woman goes first because after the wedding she will be Mrs. John Doe. LOL I thought it was hilarious. Just go with whatever you prefer!

     
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    leighannd    April 30, 2011   brooklyn, ny

    I could be wrong, but anytime I've seen Miss its been in reference to a younger person (like, a kid!) and Ms. is like a single lady haha. I've also always seen the woman listed first - thats how I've been doing it so far!

     
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    AprilBride10    April 17, 2010   New York, NY

    Are you both hosting the wedding, or are your parents?  Technically, if the parents are hosting, RSVP's should go to them. 

    Of course, these days with people getting married older, its fine to have the RSVP's go to you if it is easier.  Honestly - I just had the RSVP's come to me directly as a "Ms." (and we live together).  Either Miss or Ms. is correct, but the woman's name should always go first (ha - until you get married!).

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    Technically, Miss is reserved for people under 16 or 18.  Ms is anyone older.

     

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