(Closed) Envelope etiquette help please: Return Address and Miss vs. Ms. for me

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Ms. is just fine because it is officially the title for when a woman doesn’t want to indicate her status, a married woman can be a Ms. a divorced woman or a never married woman, no matter, she can be Ms. if she wants to. 

Miss I don’t know as much about but does firmly indicate that you’re not married. 

IMO Miss sounds a bit childish and I love the crips sound of Ms. but it’s a personal preferance so you should go with what you like best. 

As to who goes first I believe that is up to you as well.  What sounds better?  Flip a coin?  If one of you was a Doctor that person has to go first.

Post # 5
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

It is really a preference for Ms. or Miss.

As far as who goes first I read that on all wedding stuff the woman goes first because after the wedding she will be Mrs. John Doe. LOL I thought it was hilarious. Just go with whatever you prefer!

Post # 6
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I could be wrong, but anytime I’ve seen Miss its been in reference to a younger person (like, a kid!) and Ms. is like a single lady haha. I’ve also always seen the woman listed first – thats how I’ve been doing it so far!

Post # 7
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Are you both hosting the wedding, or are your parents?  Technically, if the parents are hosting, RSVP’s should go to them. 

Of course, these days with people getting married older, its fine to have the RSVP’s go to you if it is easier.  Honestly – I just had the RSVP’s come to me directly as a “Ms.” (and we live together).  Either Miss or Ms. is correct, but the woman’s name should always go first (ha – until you get married!).

Post # 8
1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Technically, Miss is reserved for people under 16 or 18.  Ms is anyone older.

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