Post # 1
It has become a ever nagging thought, where should I place the majority of my expenses. On an important day of my life that I will barely remember due to the hustle and bustle, or spend it on a week or so of a fabulous honeymoon?
Do you save the money and hubbub and just hit the courthouse, then spend all 10000 of your wedding budget on the honeymoon of a lifetime (and lets face it it can be spent on other debts in your life, so say 7500 for the honeymoon and 2500 for debt)? Or exhaust your 10000 budget to the point where it really becomes a 12000 budget because of last minute expenses and go on a hohum honeymoon to the Bahamas? (Not that the Bahamas is a bad place to go and if that is all you can afford, that’s not a bad thing at all; it’s just I have been there and to me a person who has grown up on the beach it’s nothing special).
I really want to have that fairytale wedding, with the big dress and fancy reception, but I also love to travel and I feel better spending that large chunk of change on multiple days and adventures instead of just one.
The fact is that I can’t have the best of both worlds realistically and that is hard for me to come to terms with. Because realistically my wedding budget is about 5000 because I am a minimalist when it comes to life and events (except traveling) and I don’t want to amass a bunch of debt. This leaves me little room for a fantastic honeymoon after all of the ceremony and reception expenses.
I anyone else in the same indecisive funk?
Post # 3
It took me about 2 months to come to terms with the money we were spending on a wedding. Once I did, I dont regret it.
It is a lot of money and there are arguments for and against. Both emotional and logical. Whatever you decide, you need to own it so you dont regret it.
Even “ho-hum” honeymoons can be great. If your budget is bahamas, try something not tropical and try alaska. Be creative.
Post # 4
In hindsight, I’d say spend the money on an awesome honeymoon with your H. Something like that can really recharge your batteries and bring you closer as a couple, which I think is the best way to start a marriage!
Post # 5
Review this with your Fiance and that could help you to a good start in planning.
My wedding budget is 5K but our honeymoons (yes thats plural) were free. The only downside is we have to take them before the wedding but considering that we thought we werent even going to have a honeymoon we’re not complaining. You can also consider setting up a honeymoon registry if you and Fiance already live together and already have household items such as plates and towels (the usual wedding gifts) and dont need anymore of that. How we won our honeymoon was thru a bridal show. I would suggest start going to some. It will help get the creative juices flowing and allow you to meet with possible future vendors and also show you their expenses (they also will have specials going on at that time to try to book you right then and there!!!). Furthermore, research, research, research. I have found ALOT of things on ebay. Dont shun that out. I bought my BEAUTIFUL peach wedding dress (159.xx) and my petticoat (27.xx) from there but I knew exactly what I wanted. Im purchasing my veil from valuveil.com and getting my shoes from dsw.com. I have an all-inclusive venue that takes care of food, decorations, tables, linens, centerpieces, and even has a DJ! Im ordering my flowers online from wholeblossoms.com. But first it all begins with your priorites. One more thing I noticed. Usually when your wedding is in “wedding season” things tend to be more expensive. I noticed you set your date for July. That may cost you more in the long run. If your schedule is open, I would suggest keeping it open but if thats the ONLY possible date for you and Fiance, then I guess you wouldnt have much of a choice. Just trying to throw some ideas around. Also if possible, try to keep the guest list small and bridal party small as well. I made the mistake of having 6 BMs. If I could go back and change it, I would have only had 3. Im inviting only 75 ppl as well but Im not expecting all to show. We’ll just see when the time comes.