(Closed) Epic and metaphorical dress saga (emotional support, please?)

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2144 posts
Buzzing bee

I hate UPS, that’s all I’ll say about that :p You should give yourself some slack though. You DO deserve that dress. You are lucky that the dress of your dreams only cost that much! A dress I was in love with would have cost me over $2,500… so I had to nix it. My budget was $500 for a dress and I couldn’t justify more for a dress that I’d only wear for ONE day, but then I found a dress I loved that was about $750 as well. I plan on trying to justify it by selling it after the wedding, but we’ll see! You deserve it. This is a once in a lifetimet thing, and maybe it’s only one day, but it’s fine. If you feel REALLY guilty about those starving kids, for wedding favors, you could always make a donation on the behalf of your guests :p

Post # 4
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Okay, first of all congratulations! Finding a dress that you love is maddening sometimes, and yet you managed to find two! You can wear one for the wedding and the other for the reception (or whatever).

Secondly, you worked your butt off to get to where you are professionally. That’s something to be proud of and something to be rewarded. Having said that, if you have a mountain full of debt and are behind on payments- return the dress. If this isn’t the case, keep it. It’s not about being deserving, this is your wedding. You’ve worked hard to get to where you are and you shouldn’t feel badly about reaping the benefits of that hard work.

Anyway, if you want to get all metaphorical about the dress’s journey, why don’t you focus on the fact that there is NO REASON that this dress shouldn’t have been damaged. You said yourself, it’s a delicate garment and it was left to the elements for a long period of time. It should have been ruined!

And yet it’s perfect.

Maybe that’s the point. It’s perfect. Put it on. Enjoy it. I’ll bet it looks fabulous on you. And when you wear it on your wedding day you can do so while remembering that it was all of those late night study sessions and extra hours that got you into it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well first off ((hugs)). Second of all thank god your dress is ok. I would def call the ups people and file a complaint asap. Who is not to say he will do this again to another soon to be bride and she might not have as good of a out come as yourself. You sound like a very decent person and everyone needs to splurge on themselves evey now and then. On a day like your wedding no one can put a price tag on it.

It is very very thoughtful to be thinking of other unfortunate people. Maybe as a suggestion you can sell your $99 DB dress to a much less fortunate bride for a much lower price(thats if you still have it)? just a suggestion im not telling you what to do, im thinking of what i would do in your situation. I know that would make me feel better knowing i helped someone else out. I know when im done with my wedding i want to donate my left overs to help another struggling bride out.

Its your day i know its not easy but try to relax. You worked for everything and your hard work is paying off and what a blessing. Hope your dress fits like a dream and makes you feel like a princess. Good Luck

 

Post # 7
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Any chance you’re a pyschology or English student? Because, as a student of English, I overthink in similar ways and often try to cast inanimate objects as symbols that stand for much more than they do. It’s not a bad thing.

Here’s how you can look at it: The dress, as a symbol, marks your accomplishments. It has gone through a journey to get to you and has emerged triumphantly despite the odds. You should put it on and enjoy it and be proud of yourself. (You should also call UPS to complain about their unprofessionalism, or at least write a letter!)

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