Post # 1
So a friend of ours has very generously offered to do e-pics for us as a wedding gift. She’s trying to build her portfolio, so it benefits her too, and she stressed that she won’t be offended if we don’t end up using them.
Thing is, I’m a little nervous about this – not about the pics. I mean, I think they’ll turn out well, but even if they don’t, it’s just a few hours of our time. But if they do, it’ll save us a few hundred dollars.
What I feel wierd about is that if we hired someone, I’d have no qualms about giving directions for what I want, or asking to go to different places, etc. I’d be paying for their time.
Here, not so much. I already offered a suggestion that didn’t seem to sway her from her original proposed location, and I don’t want to sound ungrateful. So I guess I’m not sure if I should just go along with what she wants to do (since she’s giving the gift), or if I should pipe up and say “Well, maybe we could do____”…
Thoughts, bees? Advice?
Post # 3
You should ask her! If you bring it up before hand then hopefully it won’t be weird the day of. Play it off as a “bride” thing by saying something like “I don’t want to come off like a bridezilla but I have thoughts about specific things I’d LOVE to see. Do you think it’ll be weird if I want to/can’t help giving suggestions”? If the friend says she’ll be upset, I think she’s choosing the wrong profession:)
Post # 4
My SO is a semi professional photographer (as in, he makes money out of it but still has a regular job). He hates doing weddings for friends because a couple will put a lot of trust in their photographer and he always feels pressured.
All I’m saying is I wouldn’t be surprised if she isn’t as nervous as you are, so just be open about what you want: sit down and discuss ideas – you can explain what you’re thinking and she will probably come up with fab ideas too. My SO always tries out the shots his customer, and friends, want (even if he doesn’t think it’ll be flattering), and she should be fine by taking a little direction. Guess it’s a bit of give and take.
Also have a look at what she does have in her portfolio and say what you like and be tactful about what you don’t. Compliment sandwich styley “This is great, not a fan of this, but I love this one” and so on.
Post # 5
The arrangement is mutual, and she is using the images for her portfolio and she probably has a vision of what she wants or a comfort factor with a certain location. I would stick with her thoughts and not throw a screwball into the mix.
I myself would just hire a pro because my time and all the effort and expense of doing hair and makeup,etc is not worth risking a do-over. It all comes down to how much you value your time and how much you have to budget.
Post # 6
my thoughts are that if this is something she wants to do as a career then, your friend will need to learn to take direction from clients and learn to give direction also. i think you need to sit down and talk this through ask your friend what shots she is looking for to add to her portflio agree to do those and ask if she can meet some of your wishes also. don’t feel like you cant ask, because to me that makes you a model for her shots and not a gift to you at all, if you can both get something good out of this then it a wonderful idea
Post # 7
@stokieGal: exactly what i was going to suggest – suggest your ideas and do hers as well.
Post # 8
@USER876: I’m not sure what you mean by time, effort, expense? My e-pic session lasted about an hour, and I didn’t do anything special with hair or makeup- I wanted to just look like me, not a dolled up version of me, I guess. My time is valuable I suppose but I could sacrifice an hour for a friend.
@atalante: Go for it. Maybe try suggesting a few things and try to work together with her. If it doesn’t go like you want, you can always hire a pro and get another e-pic session done, correct? If you really believe that your friend won’t be offended by that.
Post # 9
@galloway111: Most of my clients end up taking a few hours off work so we can catch the golden hour and sunset, and most of the females at least get their hair and make up done for the session or I supply a MUA. The locations that are picked are usually a drive out of town, so it’s more than an hour. but….. If your shoot is real local with no real prep, then go for it.
Post # 10
How different of a location is what you want vs. what she suggested?
I think if you have your heart set on a location, you should talk to her about it.
A friend of mine did some e-pics for me. I really wanted to do them in ‘x’ location, but she picked a different one and everything was fine.
My photog did another e-session for us and I asked her for a price break and she agreed as long as she picked the spot. It was nowhere I would have chosen, but I loved the shots.
I still don’t have any pics in the 2 places I really wanted photos… but I have more photos than I know what to do with (with wedding shots, etc.) that it isn’t a big deal in the least (to me).