- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I got engaged this past August and the ring that my FI gave me was gifted to him/us from his grandmother, who he is super close to. The ring is very sentimental to him, but is totally not my style; it’s a solitaire and I prefer the 3 stone rings. His grandmother said we could “add” to the ring as we see fit, but the jewler we went to said that the prongs are so worn the whole setting should be replaced (the ring is circa 1940). I’ve been gently asking him to go look at other settings, and have showed him examples that I like; I’d really like to have him pick it out and surprise me. To add to this, the ring hasn’t fit since about 1 month after we got engaged so I can’t even wear it because I’m too afraid I’ll lose it at work (I work in an emergency department and put on/take off gloves 500+ times daily). He is dragging his feet and I don’t want to pick out the ring. I haven’t told him that I don’t necessarily like the ring, but once we were told the setting had to be replaced I showed him the 3 stone settings that I like. He is very reluctant to change the ring or look at new settings, even though his grandmother gave us the go ahead to add to it from the beginning.
How do I light a fire under his butt to get him on the move without being insensitive to his love for this ring. Am I overreacting? I’m tired of being engaged and not having a ring to show for it 🙁