Post # 1
I thought this would be fun to discuss on the bee…
I was reading this big long post the other night on engagment rings that are to big. Yes, to BIG. I am from the thought process that stones can’t be to big. However, professional women on Corporette.com were stating that to large of a stone is ‘gaudy’ and ‘out of place’ in some professions.
On the other hand the post on Corporette.com went onto say that some stones are ‘too small’ and that some women felt ‘sorry’ for women who had to wear such small stones. Some women from the post also stated they ‘didn’t understand why women could not just buy a stone different from a diamond to get a decent sized stone.’ Additional career women off the site stated that colored stones were ‘unprofessional and gaudy in general’ and didn’t look like ‘engagement rings’ and looked more like ‘cocktail rings’ which were in fact ‘gaudy’ in many other professionals opinions.
Of course women from Corporette.com are talking about professional atmosphere such as a law office, IRS, corportate office, etc. What do bee’s think about women in professional atmospheres? Are colored gemstones gaudy? I have to admit it never occured to me. It also never occured to me a stone could be to large. It has however occured to me a gemstone could be to small. But, this has to do with personal taste. And I have worked in a professional corportate office before in the past. But, I have to say most of the women wore what they wanted. Most women wore lots of jewelery which again matches my personal taste.
I will say go for it with your comments! Very much looking forward to them! Be nice but not to nice.
Post # 2
I think anything over 2 carats is a bit showy for work. Having said that, I did know someone who wore over 3 carats, but hey – for my taste 2 and under is perfect.
Post # 3
Oh – and as far as coloured stones? I think they are gorgeous. Small stones are perfect too. Sometimes less is more.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
I think it is ridiculous that people are even debating this.
Post # 5
I think it also depends on what is considered ‘average’ in the area you live/work in. What might be considered average in one city may be considered large in another area.
As far as colored gemstones being ‘gaudy’, I think that is ridiculous.
Post # 6
Corportate enviornment or not, saying someones ring is too small is kind of rude!
Post # 7
Its very different in the UK as 1 carat is huge! I don’t know anyone who has a diamond bigger than 0.5 carats! Mine is 0.61 and my friends comment on my “bling”!! I think people assume anything big has got to be fake as it’s not the done thing to be “showy” over here! I personally wouldn’t want anything bigger than mine, I can’t believe the size of some of the rings on US bees!! They’re absolutely gorgeous but definitely not the done thing in the UK!
Post # 8
Like it or not, appearance does factor into a corporate environment. Just like visible tattoos and piercings can limit your career in a corporate environment, so can overly large/gaudy jewelry (and not just engagement rings).
If your ring is in line with what other professional women are wearing in your area, you’re probably fine. If everyone in your area wears minimal jewelry, and you’re rocking a 4ctw ring, you’re going to stand out, and not in a good way. You want to stand out for your actions at work, not for your appearance.
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
It sounds like the women on that website are nothing but Judgey McJudgerstons. There is no healthy foundation to the debate.
Post # 10
I am, for the most part “a lady who lunches” however, occasionally I will take on a job once in a while to spice things up. When I do, I usually don’t wear my solitaire/large stones rather, just an eternity band. I feel at my age wearing a large(r) stone around other woman draws too much attention.
Though, I’m all for a large stone. I just don’t wear that ring to work. Currently, my stone is a 1.2ct and it draws a lot of unwanted attention when in such close proximities such as an office. That doesn’t discourage me from wanting to go bigger though, hubby and I are hunting down my next stone which will be 2-3ct.
Post # 12
Some people seem to have way too much time on their hands, if this is actually something they discuss…
Post # 13
this is a weird debate and no one answer.
i think the center stone depends on the setting as well. you can have a large stone in a very tasteful setting and it not look gawdy (as i do). or it can be in a hideous setting and look huge (where this diamond came from, my grandmother’s ering).
i originally turned down my grandmother’s diamond because it was huge and ugly and i could never wear it. my mother pointed out that it was the setting doing it. once the diamond was placed in a setting that suited my dainty fingers, it looked perfect.
Post # 14
I think this debate is mostly ridiculous – especially on the colored stone front! Some people are serious snobs. But I think there are a couple circumstances in which “too big” (define that however you will) could be an issue:
If you work with poorer communities as part of your job, it might be more tasteful to wear less showy jewelry. I remember a friend was horrified when the executive director of her nonprofit wore a full-length (real) fur coat on a visit to one of the poorest schools in the metro area. She thought it was really out of touch and tasteless.
Also, if you wear a very large stone and have a lower-level job, it could send a message that you don’t really need to work, which could possibly be an issue. I’m not saying I agree with this, or that it should stop one from wearing their ring, but I know some people make assumptions like this.
As for rings that are too small? That’s so absurd for so many reasons I can’t even address it.