(Closed) Ering advice/opinion wanted! :)

posted 5 years ago in Accessories
  • poll: Is it too early to upgrade, and would 1 ct look too big on my size 4.5 finger?
    Not too early to upgrade, and 1 ct would look awesome on you. : (8 votes)
    18 %
    Not too early to upgrade, but 1 ct would look too big on you. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    It is too early to upgrade, but 1 ct would look awesome on you. : (20 votes)
    44 %
    It is too early to upgrade, and 1 ct would look too big on you. : (16 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 3
    4035 posts
    Honey bee

    @frommisstomrs.:  Not to sound mean, but your Fiance might feel hurt that you want something other than what he purchased. Like you said, he is proud of his purchase. Even if he says he is ok with it, it will probably still sting a little.

    I love what my Fiance got me. Sure, it could be bigger, but I would never think of upgrading. You could invest more in a wedding band or wait to buy a nice ring at a signicant anniversary date (i.e., 5, 10, 15 or 20+ years).

    Did you two discuss the option of upgrading down the road before he bought it? That would be the only circumstance I would think would possibly justify it and make it less hurtful.

    Post # 4
    3141 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think you should keep it as it was given to you. Yes, bigger and blingier is nice, but is it worth hurting his feelings over and losing the sentimental value of the ring? If you want more bling, save up and get a blingy RHR. 

    Post # 6
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Honestly, I think your ring looks perfect as is.  Maybe order a loose moissanite and look at them side by side to see if it’s what you really want or not?  You can always return it if you decide not to go with it.

    Post # 9
    1784 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    And I almost forgot.  Have you tried your ring on with super blingy wedding bands to see how that looks?

    Post # 11
    3720 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    So I am playing it from a guy’s perspective– he saved for and bought you a gorgous ring. Less than a year later (in probably less time that it took for him to save for it) you tell him you want a bigger, shinier ring? And that you don’t want a ring in the traditional stone he bought for you, but instead a synthetic replica of a different stone? My Fiance would be so hurt and would think it would be materialistic to downgrade from a smaller “real thing” to a bigger “non-diamond”.

    Your Fiance is not on board. Don’t risk hurting his pride over this. Trust me, it isn’t worth it.

    Post # 12
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I.wouldn’t. I think his concern of it being to early says something. and he is proud of it. Darling Husband picked.my ring. Not what I may have picked but a beautiful  ring and he worked hard to pay for it and took his time making his perfect choice…Now I couldn’t imagine having anything else. The way I see it is that it maybe something I wear forever but the ring he picked will mean something to Darling Husband forever too..maybe you should give it some time.

    Post # 14
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    As long as your Fiance is ok with it, I say go for it. Moissy is a beautiful stone, and lots of ladies upgrade. The fact that it’s moissy doesn’t make it any less REAL. I am afraid you’re going to get some opinions here that are clouded by bias against moissanite, but keep in mind, diamond is only traditional because a lady at the NW Ayers agency wrote some really good ad copy. What makes the two of you happy is the most important thing.

    Post # 15
    2287 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I don’t think it’s weird to upgrade before the marriage, but it sounds like your FH is on the fence. It’s good that you talked about hurt feelings and everything. A 1 ct would probably be the biggest you should go for realism, but I’d probably wait another year or two. It sounds like he’s attached to this one. I’d give it time.

    Post # 16
    5405 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wouldn’t. Not to mention all the pride related issues that have been brought up, but I don’t like moissanite nearly as much as diamonds. I wouldn’t go for a moissanite if I already had a gorgeous diamond. Also, you say he asked you post this, so I’m sure he does have some hesitation. He wouldn’t ask you to post it if he was 100% on board. 

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