Post # 1
My fiance and I DIY’d our rehearsal dinner invitations. I told him what to write and he typed/designed it. Well, I received ours in the mail today (we are LD) and there are 3 glaring spelling errors! I am mortified. They are pretty easy words, but my fiance is a terrible speller and he just happened to spell them incorrectly….but they are obvious. Luckily the invitations only went to our closest friends and family, but I’m still pretty humiliated about the whole situation. I’m not upset at him and it was very sweet of him to do this project for us. But I don’t think there’s anything that can be done at this point, is there? Would you just ignore it and say “oh well” or is there any way to remedy the situation. They have already been mailed. Should we re-do them anyway?
Post # 3
Unless it’s a mistake that makes something inaccurate (like, he wrote the wrong date, etc.), I wouldn’t bother trying to correct it.
However, if this happened to me, being totally honest here, I would post something on facebook like, “It’s awesome having a Fiance who can design stuff for our wedding!” … just so people would know it wasn’t my mistake. Indirectly.
Ahhh I’m a terrible person though.
ETA: For the future, if he does stuff, make sure he always sends you an electronic copy to proof ahead of time!
Post # 4
If they have already been made, I would not redo them and not bring it up either… Have your told your Fiance yet? if it were me, I probably would not – he probably put much effort, and if he percieves he “screwed up”, he might not be as helpful in the future. I’d thank him for his hard work, and in the future review his spelling before sending out.
Post # 5
I would spread the word to your friends/family about how helpful he was to help with the invitations. Your friends/family will probably be impressed that he cared enough to design the invites himself that the mistakes won’t bother them.
Post # 6
Yeah. I think they are pretty big uh-ohs (“rehersal” instead of “rehearsal” and “appitizers” instead of “appetizers”) but I’m still secretly hoping nobody will notice it. The design program he used does not have spell check. I guess the next time I see everyone I can just mention that he designed the invitations and how sweet it was.
I was wondering if I should mention it to him or not. I don’t want to hurt his feelings or humiliate him. I guess I should just keep my trap shut and proof-read in the future. If you were in this situation, would you tell your fiance?
Post # 7
personally i would let him know about it.. i think being close to someone means u are able to be honest with them even if they made a mistake, rather than just trying not to hurt their feelings.
Post # 8
I’m afraid you can’t unring the bell.
But honestly, love, I’d save the invite and frame it. Not only is it a literal product of you and your fiance, but someday, you’ll giggle about it and it’ll be the stuff that you’ll show with glee to your grandkids.
With weddings there are either things that go well or things that will become good stories.
Post # 9
Noooooo I wouldn’t tell him!
Part of that is that I can’t see myself saying it any way besides upset, and I don’t like to do that. If you can do it in a way that is genuinely informational, and you think he’d want to know, then that’s your choice 😉
Post # 10
If you ask him to design anything else, ask if you can see it before it gets sent out. If he asks why, tell him. If he doesn’t, don’t. The cat is out of the bag on this one, but telling him is only going to make him feel bad.
Here’s the thing… He can’t fix the invitations. If you point out the mistake now it’s going to upset him quite a bit because he can’t do a darn thing about it. It won’t be productive and it won’t help in the future. It’ll just make him feel bad. So there’s no purpose to telling him unless you are just bent on hurting him. Which you really do not seem to be. I’d just let it go, if I were you.