Post # 1
Good evening, Bees! 🙂 FI and I are going against the grain a little bit and doing eRSVPs on our wedding website in lieu of response cards (very, very limited budget). Would you recommend putting the deadline of the RSVP on the invitation something like “Please RSVP by October 26, 2013” and then maybe “For more information or to RSVP, please visit: icanhearyousmileandFI’sweddingwebsite.”?
Most of our guests are younger, and FI’s half is out of town, so the wedding website has the registry info, local airports, directions to 3 different hotels in 3 different price points from said airports, rental car informatio, hotel information, directions to the venue, a map of the venue (it’s a park), and alllll of that nonsense for people who are traveling. I’d prefer them to see that on their way to RSVP like, “Oh! Here is everything we need so we don’t bother OP and her FI with questions that are already answered!” (Even though I’m sure we’ll field questions regardless, lol).
On the wedding website itself we’ve got the RSVP set up with a Can/Cannot Attend response and a section for food allergies (we’ve got a set menu, but have vegetarian and GF options in the wings for those that need it).
Post # 3
@icanhearyousmile: That’s exactly what I did! My wedding is in less than 4 weeks and using the website has been really helpful.
The only thing I can say is that we used punchbowl becuase another friend sent her save the dates through that website and we were sad to discover after using it that if you send more than 100 invites, you have to pay. we had only a handful more people to invite, so we ended up paying $20/mo for it just because it would have been too confusing to try and find a free one later.
Read the fine print!
Post # 4
@kireifresca: Thank you, I will check it out! I am using Nearlyweds, but we’re only inviting ~70 people total. So it should work out to maybe 40 RSVPs at the most. I will look, though, on the site to see if there is a limit to the RSVPs. Good to know!
Post # 5
We are doing online RSVP as well. What I did was make little RSVP cards from the business cards on Vistaprint- you can often get 250 for FREE (you just pay shipping) – sign up with them and they’ll start sending you offers left and right. Just wait for the one that says free business cards!
One side had the deadline and our our website, and the other had a few phone numbers for people that don’t have access to a computer. Cheap and easy!!! Took me about five minutes to create!
Post # 6
@icanhearyousmile: If your guests are very very proper, they will take out their own stationery and write you a polite note, immediately, regardless of whether you provide a form-letter response card or an email address. So feel free to provide an email address for responding — the guests who are not “very very proper” themselves certainly have no cause to be taking offense at it!
You probably do need to put a “please reply by” date for practical purposes, just because so many modern folk do think in terms of deadlines. When I was a girl, even putting “R.s.v.p.” or “The favour of a reply is requested” on the invitation at all was discouraged, since one was supposed to trust one’s guests to know such simple good-manners basics. But it was on Princess Elizabeth’s wedding invitations, so even sticklers had to allow that it had become acceptable, and including the “by when” date falls into the same category.
Post # 7
@midwestgirl80: That’s a good idea! 😀 I’ll run that by my FI. I actually designed our invitations (yay photoshop!) and we’re going to exchange a bottle of wine for some time on my friend’s super snazzy laser color printer, lol. I might be able to get something in there (perhaps on the back??) to that effect! Thank you for the suggestion!
@aspasia475: I don’t think my guests are that proper. They’re mostly oldschool in the etiquette way of “Why are w RSVPing to a wedding on the internets?” instead of “They can’t put RSVP because it’s not proper” lol. But there’s going to be a bunch of other nontraditional hooey that they will be up in arms about. I don’t even care anymore…XD
Post # 8
@icanhearyousmile: We are having a very small, casual, low budget wedding and set up the website with all the parking info, maps, etc.
At the bottom of our invitation, we wrote “Please RSVP online by visiting http://www.weddingwebsite.com before DATE.”
Post # 9
@hikingSM2B: THAT is an excellent idea! 😀 Thank you!