Post # 1
What is the etiquette for escort cards for guests who are coming together to the wedding but are not married. Do I make two separate cards for each of them or put on the escort card “Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Jones”.
Also, for families, is it “Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & family”.. or should I put all of there names? The kids are ages 8-15.
Post # 2
Post # 3
Many brides confuse “escort cards” with “place cards”. You can use both, or either, or neither; but they do different things and the formal etiquette is different.
Place cards mark where each guest is to sit. They are on the table before the guests arrive, centered above each place setting; so of course there is one per guest. Most properly they are hand-written in black ink and use the guests’ formal names: “Mr Smith”, “Ms Jones”, “Miss Smith” for their eldest daughter, “Miss Elizabeth” for their younger daughter(s), “Mr John” for their son(s). Use given names and surnames together only when required for disambiguation.
Escort cards tell each gentleman whom he is expected to escort in to dinner — since at truly high formal events spouses are never seated together — and may also tell him what table to escort his lady or ladies to. Most brides prefer not to follow that high a standard of formality and expect each gentleman to escort his own wife, and use escort cards primarily to inform their guests of their table-number. The most proper form is to write the ladies’ names onto a small white card, withthe table number written in at the bottom of the card. The card is then put into a small white envelope addressed on the back with the gentleman’s name, and handed to each gentleman as he arrives. There is one card per gentleman, so if he is shepherding a whole family to the table, all their names are written on the same card, like this:
Miss Smith, Miss Elizabeth, Mr John