Post # 1
Hi everyone! I’m a week a half out from my wedding (eeek!) and we’re just starting to write out the escort cards with table assignments. I was wondering how others have treated “+1” people whom you don’t have a name for… so Jane Doe is my friend and she didn’t give me her guests’ name.
Would you do for their place cards:
Guest of Jane Doe
Thanks in advance for any advice or I’m happy to answer clarification questions if that doesn’t make sense. I have “wedding brain” right now!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I would just put Guest of Jane Doe.
OR if they’re someone you actually talk to, ask for their +1’s name! I got the names of my guests’ +1’s so that way they could feel a little more included and not just there.
Post # 3
Thank you! Yes, I had that same thought – I don’t want the cards to be so informal for the guests. I’ll try to figure out as many as I can (I was amazed at how many RSVPs didn’t include both people’s names – looks like I should have worded the RSVP a bit differently to get that information).
Post # 4
I just asked for the names of +1s.
Post # 5
I called/texted/facebook everyone who had a +1 and got the persons name…it took some time but I liked the way it all turned out. But, Guest of Jane Doe is just fine.
Post # 6
Kc6882: As PP have said, just ask for the name. Or if it’s your mom’s second cousin’s friend or whatever, have your mom ask.
Post # 7
You call them and ask for the name of their guest.
I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if I were a guest at a wedding and the host didn’t even bother to take the 10 seconds to find out my name.
Post # 8
I’d find out the name as well. I’m in the process of doing this and it’s been a huge help. I wanted to avoid putting “guest of” if I could (although if you must, you must, and I don’t think that’s rude) and also, frankly, I just wanted to know who was going to be coming to my wedding haha.
Post # 9
Thank you everyone for your comments – they helped a lot. I did my cards last night and to my surprise, I didn’t have as many “unknowns” as I thought! So this morning I reached out to everyone that I needed to and easily got their names. 🙂