(Closed) Escort cards: one per person or one per couple?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you do one escort card per couple?
    Yes : (18 votes)
    56 %
    No : (13 votes)
    41 %
    Depends (explain below) : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1982 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted wrong because I answered the question you asked in your post, not the one at the top of the poll. oops. Rephrase on the poll maybe?

    I voted no and meant yes.

    Post # 4
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we did one per couple. i did diy and made paper flowers for each card, they took forever, i wanted to do the least amount possible.

    Post # 5
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I was going to do my escort cards so that they’re one per person, but that is just because we are going to add a component to the escort cards that notify our servers what meal they selected for dinner.  Logistically, it wouldn’t be possible to do that if we made the escort cards one per couple.

    Post # 6
    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It’s not tacky to do otherwise but I am personally doing one per person.  I’m not doing anything elaborate though.

    Post # 7
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve only ever seen one per couple unless, in the case of a head table, the couple is not being seated together. Especially maried couples will be Mr. and Mrs.

    Post # 8
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    We did one per couple, makes it super easy and takes up less cards!

    Post # 9
    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m going individuals. We have a lot of long term, unmarried friends. I think it would be weird to put two names down and have them guess whose name the card is filed under. The only time I would go couples is if it’s a plus one, and I didn’t know their name. Like “Matt Smith and Guest”.

    Post # 10
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’ve never heard of doing one per couple- we’re using our cards to indicate meal choice as well, so it wouldn’t really be possible.

    Post # 11
    1696 posts
    Bumble bee

    When I use escort cards at all, which is rare, I use them because I want particular gentlemen to “escort” particular ladies to the table. This is the formal protocol that escort cards are designed for, and you usually see it only at true white-tie affairs like consular dinners. The gentleman’s name goes on the outside of the envelope, the lady’s name goes on the inside of the envelope, the envelope is handed to the gentleman by the butler or footman when he arrives, and if he doesn’t know the lady then the gentleman immediately seeks an introduction to her. And yes, that really does happen at that kind of affair so no, there’s nothing “tacky” at all about doing one escort card per couple. Place cards, of course, are done one-per-guest and are sitting on the table when the guests arrive.

    I’ve never seen escort cards used in that “proper” fashion at a wedding: usually they are used to indicate to arriving guests what their table number is. But since formal protocol would dictate one per couple, you shouldn’t feel obligated to do more than that.

    Post # 12
    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve seen it both ways. 

    We’re doing one per person because our guests are selecting their meal. 

    Post # 13
    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I prefer to have one for each person individually.

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