Post # 1
I am looking to get an eternity band. Since it will have diamonds all around, there is very little metal showing… so does it matter if it is platinum or white gold? My e-ring is platinum. Since platinum is harder, will it scratch the white gold eternity band? Is it ok to mix the two?
Post # 3
even though there will be diamonds all around, you will still be able to see the prongs and the metal around the diamonds. White gold will age differently than platinum, and the colors will not be the same. If you do want to mix the two, you’ll have to make sure you get the white gold polished as much as you can to match the platinum of your e-ring if you plan on wearing the two together. If you plan on wearing them separately most of the time, I’m sure you can mix. Good luck! Either way, I love love eternity bands and you’ve made a nice choice with that!
Post # 4
Actually the color difference is not an aging issue – platinum and white gold are going to be different colors from the start. You can look at white gold and platinum rings together at your jewelers and see if the difference in color bothers you. I looked at both platinum and white gold, and could see a significant difference in both the color and the finish – the platinum rings seem to have a more satiny looking finish to me.
The white gold will scratch and scuff more easily than the platinum; you can have it replated (rhodium plating) a couple of times a year if the scratches bother you. You shouldn’t "polish" white gold, as all that does is remove layers of metal. I would think that the scuffing that one ring causes to the other wouldn’t be that noticeable, as it will be on the side of the band where the rings meet. However, I would think that the rings will wear unevenly because of the difference in hardness, with the long-term result that the white gold ring will wear away faster than the platinum ring. Over years and years that might be a problem.
Post # 5
the platinum is tougher and i’ve heard it will damage white gold unless you wear a ring guard in between them.
Post # 6
I actually JUST discussed this with my jeweler this weekend. He really was trying to convince me that for the price difference, it didn’t make sense to buy platinum. Once the rhodium plating is on there, it is REALLY tough to tell the difference without actually weighing two similar rings (platinum is substantially heavier), particularly for eternity rings in which there is not a lot of metal showing.
My jeweler definitely didn’t agree with Suzanno about the number of times that you’d have to replate the ring though. He said that it really depends on how hard you are on your rings… He’d seen people that had their rings for 10 years and it looked like they’d just been plated. Others, who worked with their hands a lot, needed to replate every few years. Regardless, even if it did wear down once a year, because platinum is about double the price of gold, you could easily replate the ring MANY times before the prices were similar.
My advice is to try a white gold ring on with your ring. If you can’t tell the difference, and it doesn’t bug you that you’re wearing two different metals, go with the white gold.
I ultimately ordered platinum because my fiance knows me too well–he said I’d always be looking for the differences in the metals even where they didn’t exist. He was right, I probably would. I really wish that I was less anal about these things though. I honestly couldn’t tell the difference between the metals when I had the white gold band next to my platinum e-ring. And it would have been nice to save that $600 price difference…
Post # 7
Stampedewedding – it also depends on your ring, and how picky you are. Like you, I look at my ring a lot, and every little scuff bugs me. Also, I have a pretty chunky setting – lots of metal to scuff – and a highly polished (rather than a satin type) finish. My sister tells me she can’t even see the scuffs on my ring, but I can. My jeweler says that a lot of his clients have their rings replated every few years, a lot more only when the ring needs work, and his "picky girls" have theirs done every six months. I admit it, I’m a picky girl.
Post # 8
I hate to advocate for the most expensive option, but I vote for platinum. For many reasons, we did the wedding band/e-ring opposite (meaning the ring I am wearing now as an engagement ring would be considered a wedding band-it’s an eternity, channel set sapphire and diamond ring with etching and filigree detail); my ring is white gold and it is scratched, bent and not as bright as platinum. Yes, it was less expensive, but FI has already said that he plans to buy me a platinum eternity band (sapphires and diamonds like my current one) at some point for me in the future because my ring is not wearing well. That being said, I am also harder on my ring than most-I wear it at the gym, climbing, etc. If you are a gentler person, you might be okay;) The pros of white gold (besides price)are that it initially looks shinier and is lighter weight:) That is why I originally wanted it:) Good luck! Whatever you choose will be gorgeous!
Post # 9
A good friend of mine has a platinum e-ring and a white gold eternity band- she’s been married for two years and the color difference is DRAMATIC… just a thought
Post # 10
if you’re e-ring is platinum, then you should get a platinum w-band to go with it. bklyngirl is right, the platinum e-ring would damage the white gold w-band.
Post # 11
I agree. Platinum all the way 🙂
Both my rings are platinum and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Post # 12
White gold is definately the softer of the two metals, and scratches easily. I have only had my rings for two months and can see all of the little scratches on the bands (I too inspect my rings on the regular). No one else notices because they’re just looking at the stones and there’s not a lot of metal showing on the top, but if you look at the sides and bottom close enough, you can see them. I guess it all depends on how much it will bother you (as someone else said). It bothers me, especially because I haven’t had them for that long, but then again I know that I hardly take them off so I’m partly to blame. I would definately speak with a jeweler or two to see if the platinum will beat up the white gold.
Post # 13
My choice is simple…I’m allergic to white gold…it’s gotta do with the plating process…every jeweler I’ve see has tried to convince me of using white gold instead of platinum…I must say that I DO NOT understand why???…the shut up once I tell them I’m allegic…
and yes, you can be allergic to white gold…it can make you itchy and give you a small burn due to the rhodium.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I have a platinum e-ring and got a white gold eternity band. It basically came down to cost. I cant be bothered to spend $$$ right now when we’ve got all these wedding bills to pay, and going in debt for a ring is absolutely dumb. I wanted so badly just to get a plain band, but it looked so hideous against my ring, I had to go eternity band. And no, i dont see the difference in the colors. And if one day I do, I dont care. The rings are symbolic more than an accessory for me so I dont really care, and I assume after a couple years I wont wear my e-ring with my wedding band anymore, I’ll wear them seperately, or not wear my E ring anymore, like when I have kids (dont want to poke them in the eye with the diamond!) So if you have the money to go platinum I say go for platinum, but ultimately, if cost is an issue for you, who cares about the plusses, minuses and rubbing issues. As long as you dont put it on your credit card, (and not pay it off within a month) thats my main concern about ANY wedding purchases!
Post # 15
wow. Thanks for all the advice/opinions. I will speak to my jeweler again and see what he says.