etiquette about bridal parties

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@futuremrswood25:  I don’t know.  I want to say that it’s a new wedding so you don’t have to – but others may disagree.  That’s a tricky one.

Post # 4
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

@MsGinkgo:  Agree, it’s tricky.  I’d say there’s no etiquette that says you have to use the same party.  I think the issue is, do you want to deal with a fussy friend and/or FSIL if you decide to switch them out.  Best of luck with the home buying and wedding!!!!

Post # 5
627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)

I don’t think you have to. Maybe keep FSIL but not as MOH? i definitely don’t think you need to keep the friend in the party. 

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the timeline matters. If you start planning a wedding again this year for a wedding next year, I would be miffed to no longer be in the party!

But if you start planning in 2014/2015 for a 2016 wedding, I think that’s totally different!

Post # 7
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

what if you decided to not have any people in your briday party? Like just you, your FI, and the officiant standing up there. This way it doesn’t seem like you’re snubbing anyone, you just decided to simplify! Also, it seems like your previous bridal party was totally uninterested in helping you out, so just get rid of all of that stress in one fell swoop.

I say that because if I were in your situation, I would just forgo any bridesmaids and groomsmen. You can use the excuse that its logistically easier and cheaper (not having to choose dresses, buy them, etc) 🙂

If you have replacement bridalparty members in mind though, I’mnot sure. That could be a tricky situation.

Post # 8
31 posts

I was engaged once before and we called off the engagement, after having chosen the bridal party. I did not choose the same people second time around. Some people are the same, but a few friends are not in it any more. I don’t think you need to keep people. Obviously I would still ask his sister, but if you and your friend drifted, I wouldn’t think so. Think if you’re still close enough that you’d want her at the wedding.

Post # 9
6 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I agree with @ladybrick:.  Just don’t have a wedding party!  

Post # 10
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ladybrick:  +100000000

I am a huge advocate of NOT having a bridal party.  You bypass so much stress, hurt feelings, logistical planning, and other uneccessary worries.

We didn’t have a bridal party for our wedding, and our friends were there at our wedding just the same — only with no responsibilities, complaining, or special outfits.  It was easily one of the best wedding-related decisions we made, and I can’t imagine doing it any other way.

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