(Closed) Etiquette advice – eloping?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3258 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you’re actually eloping, i.e. it’s a secret, you can’t really announce it until after the wedding.  But if the wedding in San Francisco isn’t a secret from anyone, but just a simple ceremony for you and a small handful of people, you can send out save the dates and invitations for each party whenever you normally would for a wedding, relatively speaking.  I’m not really sure aout Save the Date timing, but invitations I think are usually kind of 2.5 months in advance.  Take into account anyone who would have to travel, and try to let them know the date and location as early as possible, so they can figure out their arrangements.

Post # 4
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Hi! I’m eloping to NYC for a central park wedding in October. It’s not a secret or anything, and our parents want us to have a family celebration on our return, so we plan to wait until after the ceremony to sort it all out and ring around those we feel closest to. 

If you want a larger celebration and the elopement is fairly secret, I would send out invitations to your celebration making mention of your marriage a month before. Therefore there is no time for people to question your choice re: eloping but still have ample time to prepare.

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