(Closed) etiquette and who pays for what?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

As far as I understand it anyone who wants to come to your bachelorette should put money into the pool which pays for entrance into clubs/wherever, dinner (if they want) and drinks for the night. That way if they can only pay for the club and drinks that’s what they come for and skip dinner, etc.

Post # 4
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would think that everyone would pay their own way (but sometimes people gather up money to pay for the bride’s food and drink).

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I agree with MissAsB, every party I’ve been to you pay your own way and then pitch in for the bride. I wouldn’t put this info on invites, I’d just spread it by word of mouth.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Usually what I see is people pay their own way and pitch in a little to cover the bride’s meal, drinks, etc.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The BM should not have to pay for everything. Each person that is going should pay their own way. They will probably chip in to pay for your drinks and food. Typically bach parties don’t have to pay covers, so you shouldn’t have to worry too much about that.

Post # 8
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper

Agree with MissAsB! Generally the ladies pay for themselves and cover the cost of the bride. 🙂

And one or both of your BMs can send out invites if you want, or just e-mails. 🙂

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve never been to a bachelorette where I didn’t spend a ton of $ as a BM and the bride just enjoyed her party! it’s like her final tribute to being unmarried. It’s totally the job of the birdal party and anyone else who attends to pay their way and for the bride!

However, I would recommend having secure RSVPs. I was in one wedding where we got stuck paying about $400 each for the limo to and from NYC ( I live in CT) b/c 4 people bailed on the party all together! Just make sure everyone has a realistic idea of what they’re getting into first!

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