Etiquette apolcolypse: Divorced groom's parents on invitation

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We did “The families of…” it was the only way we could think of to make sure everyone was happy.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, it might be too late, but I would have left grooms parents names off wedding invites, and just have them on RD invites, maybe compromise with on wedding put 

under grooms name

son of Mom

DAd

 

and then on RD, let his dad send out invites (as he should)

 

There is no one right or wrong answer on handling steps on invites. 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

grooms family didnt need to be on the invite if they’re only doing the rehearsal dinner- thats a seperate event and invite. “Together with their families, Bride and Groom…” always works too for more complex scenarios or the couple ho$ting.

You gotta ask the bees BEFORE you print, girl

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Are doing something along the lines of:

Mrs Meowton’s parents invite you to the wedding of their daughter

MrsMeowton to MrMeowton

son of MrMeowtonSr and MrandMrsStepDadandMom

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dont think she is crazy.  If I were a divorced mom who was primarily responsible for raising kids, and someone else was labeled parent, and got top billing, I think I would be upset.  I get it, that DADs GF is doing more wedding planning, but I  dont think that makes her a parent.  I suspect fiancee was like well whatever.     I feel bad for her.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I just wanted to say I feel your pain- Fiance’s parents are divorced for 10 years and will see each other for the first time at the rehearsal dinner. We phrased the invites to read “Together with their parents, Fiance and 1Bride2Bee2014 invite you to a celebration of love” etc.

I have a relationship with both his mother and stepmother, and the divorced parties are not cordial. Neither does the mother like the stepmother etc. I spoke with Fiance and he said we are not to play into their drama. Invite both mom and stepmom to all events, say “parents”, and if they have issues with it that is their problem. We are not picking sides. I’ve just found that you cannot please everyone, even with good intentions.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

Well, what’s done is done, but your fiance isn’t the stepmum’s son. She should not have been listed first. The mum probably should have come first, followed by the dad and the stepmum. I’d be furious if I were his mum. Leaving parental names off the invites entirely would have been better. Although I am sure he didn’t mean it this way, the current wording looks (even to guests receiving invites) like a deliberate slight – a family issue being played out in a semi-public manner.

And although his mum probably shouldn’t have contacted your mum (as what could she do about it anyway?), I think labelling her as “totally crazy” is unfair. At least it is unfair to label her that way based on this issue. If there are other reasons we don’t know, I guess we can’t comment on that.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

I think she has a right to be upset, but you dont need to worry about it.. u didnt make the decision. I would have put it:

MOB – FOB

and

MOG – FOG – SMOG

I agree with pp that she did raise him and she is his mother (i dont like my own mother but she did raise me..) But in the end it was FI’s decision so you dont need to worry about it.. she will have to get over it.. or be crabby at her son forever?..

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