Post # 1
Backstory: My mom is contributing over double what FI’s parents are contributing to the actual wedding/reception. We are also contributing.
I’ve been looking at invitations, and I want to make sure no one is offended by the wording that we choose. I’m trying not to step on anyone’s toes. Given the backstory, would it be appropriate to say:
Ms. BeeinTraining’s Mom invites you to share in the joy of marriage uniting her daughter BeeinTraining and BeeinTraining’s FI, son of Mr. and Mrs. His Parents.
Does that work? Or does it give my Mom too much credit?
Post # 3
@beeintraining: Wording it like that says that FI’s parents arent contributing at all. I would say:
Ms BIT Mom
Mr and Mrs. His Parents
Invites you to …
She get’s higher billing for puting up the most $, but their contribution shouldnt be diminished.
Post # 4
It’s a shame that the issue of wording on invitations seems to have become more about who is paying how much, rather than about who is acting as hosts for the event.
Both your mom and your finance’s parents are hosting the event, so they get shared hosting billing. The tradition that the bride’s family is listed first (and the nod to your mom for being the bigger financial contributor, if you must) are both fulfilled by the wording that KoiKove suggested above.
Post # 6
Even though I am paying for the entire wedding, my daughter and her fiance’ wanted to use “Together with their parents, Bride Name and Groom Name request the honor of your presence…
She felt listing our actual names emphasized the fact that I am a divorced woman, rather than half of a couple. I have deferred in the interest of family harmony, but I wasn’t thrilled about it. I think KoiKove’s suggestion works well in your situation – good luck!
Post # 7
Thanks all. I figured it wasn’t going to fly etiquette-wise, but that’s why I asked you! My mom is the one actually hosting the event but the last thing I want to do is get a phonecall when my FI’s parents open the invitation, so I’ll play it safe and say they’re both inviting people to the wedding.