Etiquette Bees – Need Help with Invite Wording

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @beeintraining:  Wording it like that says that FI’s parents arent contributing at all. I would say:

    Ms BIT Mom


    Mr and Mrs. His Parents

    Invites you to …


    She get’s higher billing for puting up the most $, but their contribution shouldnt be diminished. 

    Post # 4
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    It’s a shame that the issue of wording on invitations seems to have become more about who is paying how much, rather than about who is acting as hosts for the event.

    Both your mom and your finance’s parents are hosting the event, so they get shared hosting billing. The tradition that the bride’s family is listed first (and the nod to your mom for being the bigger financial contributor, if you must) are both fulfilled by the wording that KoiKove suggested above.

    Post # 6
    595 posts
    Busy bee

    Even though I am paying for the entire wedding, my daughter and her fiance’ wanted to use “Together with their parents, Bride Name and Groom Name request the honor of your presence…


    She felt listing our actual names emphasized the fact that I am a divorced woman, rather than half of a couple.  I have deferred in the interest of family harmony, but I wasn’t thrilled about it.  I think KoiKove’s suggestion works well in your situation – good luck!

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