Etiquette bees: question about thank you cards

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1473 posts
Bumble bee

I would send it now, if only to let them know you received the gifts. 

Post # 3
9856 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

cls9q:  really, you should send them as you get the gifts, but if you want to do photo thank you cards that’s difficult.  I would let them know you received the item and then send a formal thank you when you get your photo cards.

Post # 5
1193 posts
Bumble bee

cls9q:  I would send a card now, both to give your thanks and to let them know you received your gift. Its really about being thankful and not about sending a card with your photo on it.

If you want to send them another photo card, you can, but it might seem a little odd. Especially since you probably won’t get those cards made until a few weeks after the wedding.

Post # 6
1499 posts
Bumble bee

I would call them and thank them over the phone for the gift and then send a formal card once your photos are in. That way you have addressed that you got the gift and they won’t be antsy for a thank you.

Post # 7
1499 posts
Bumble bee

cls9q:  I would call and say “Hi So and so, we just got your gift, thank you so much.” then talk about something else “I heard we will be seeing you at the family reunion next year” or asking about how they are is a genuine little touch and you still get to send out the pretty pictures (you pay an arm and a leg for!!)

Post # 8
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

MissLibra:  +1

If you really want to wait for your photo card, then call them. I wouldn’t text them or send them 2 cards. Or just send them a plain thank you now and be done with it

Post # 10
864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

cls9q:  i would definitely send them a thank you card now; in the card you can just say, “thank you so much for the waffle iron; we are so excited to make breakfast now! we hope to see you soon! love, cls9q and FI.” then send them one of your pretty wedding-photo thank you cards and just say something like, “thanks again for the gift you sent. we love you!”

Post # 12
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We got gifts early, too. We sent them a generic thank-you and a photo one later.

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Post # 13
585 posts
Busy bee

cls9q:  I agree with PPs for the most could do that, but we are going against the grain sending everyone’s at once. you have….3 months (I think that is the most agreed upon number I have heard) to send thank yous. If you send them 2 or 3 weeks after your wedding, that is still less than 2 months. We still have shower gifts we have not sent thank yous for. Everyone that attended was going to (and did) attend the wedding, so I figured I would just write 1 for 2 gifts instead of 1/gift. It will still all in all be less than 3 months.

Post # 14
3643 posts
Sugar bee

I sent a generous gift in April, when I received the invitation for a July wedding. I saw the couple in August, and they apologized that they hadn’t sent the thank yous yet, as they were waiting for photos from their photographer. It’s now the beginning of December and I’ve received nothing, so far. Argh … 

Post # 15
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

cls9q:  Send a plain card now to thank them for the gift. Then later, if you want, send them the photo one saying “Thanks again! We wanted you to have this photo blah blah blah…” or something

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