Post # 1
My wedding is in October, I sent my invitations out over the past weekend. My cousin has been seeing a guy for about six months, I’ve never met him, and frankly I didn’t think it was that serious. I got a call yesterday from my aunt that they’re now engaged (which is already a huge topic for family gossip now, no offense to bees who got engaged quickly, this was just totally out of left field, no one saw it coming).
So my question is do I have to invite him now? I know the rule is living together, engaged, or married gets a plus one, but when does that cut off start? I know it would only be one more person, but it’d be a total stranger, and my guest list is already higher than I ever planned it to be.
Post # 2
She is engaged, yes you need to invite her fiancée.
Post # 3
O, and obviously the date under my name is super off. That was just a random place holder when I joined and I never figured out how to change it. I’m not an insane person sending out invites two years ahead of time.
Post # 4
Yes, definitely invite him.
Post # 5
blueteacup: yes he gets an invite.
Post # 6
you should invite him. i invited everyone who had an SO, no matter how short or long. as long as they had a name, they were invited. the only thing i didn’t do, what invite people with “and guest.”
Post # 8
Yes, invite him. Even if they weren’t engaged, I would accommodate my cousin’s SO. My fiancé and I were already living together after 5 months, I think a 6 months relationship is significant no matter if engaged or not.
Post # 9
Second question: Is a phone call of “Hi cousin, crangrats on the engagement, of course so and so is invited to the wedding, can’t wait to meet him” enough, or should I tell her ignore the first invite, and send a new one with “And so-and-so” written in? The first feels informal, the second feels awkward because she probably already has the invite, they were mailed five days ago and I can’t imagine it would take more than that for a letter to go 100 miles.
Post # 10
blueteacup: I would call to confirm they have recieved the invitation, and then extend the invitation to the fiance now that they are both engaged. Doing this over the phone in my opinion is fine.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
blueteacup: Just call her up or message her and tell her that you made an error on her invitation and that she is welcome to bring her FI with her to your wedding. I don’t see the big deal in that.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
He’s offical now, he gets an invite
Post # 13
Yes, he needs an invite, and I would just call up the cousin.