Post # 1
I just got back my STD postcards and am so excited to send them out. My question for you is that I have a few friends that are seriously dating someone but are not engaged/living together or married. Do I address the postcard to the primary person at this point (i.e. our closer friend) and then when the invites come out include the dates name then or do I do so now? What if the couple break up between now and then?
I don’t want any hurt feelings, but would rather avoid an ackward situation in the future… help!
Post # 3
When I did my Save-The-Date Cards, I had the same conundrum. I decided to just address the STD to the primary invitee, because we sent them 10 months before the wedding date. Since then, a few breakups and a couple new relationships have occured, so I am glad I made the decision I made. I think some people may find it confusing or even rude, but it worked out for me.
Post # 4
My Darling Husband and I did the opposite of mundaetraversa – we included guest information with the Save-The-Date Cards. But we also only allowed guests for married/engaged/long-term relationships so there really wasn’t any potential issues.
If a LTR became engaged, so what – they were already both invited. If people break up, if you’re close with both of them, I’m sure you’d still be inviting both (just seperate invites for the actual invite) and if you aren’t close to one of them, why would they want to come anyway? And if people start dating someone new, it won’t be a LTR so the new SO wouldn’t be invited anyway!
Post # 5
We did the same thing as @mundaetraversa: – – – We addresses the STD to our primary guest (they went out 9 months before wedding date) and then when our invitations went out we either added ‘and guest’ or we left it off as there were break ups and other changes….
I think its best for you to address the STD’s to your primary guest and then when you do your invitations you can add ‘and guest’ or not depending if they’re still together