- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I am working on my invitation wording, and need help with the proper etiquette for my particular blended situation. I’m Southern, and extended family members are quite familiar with all things mannerly, so I can’t mess this up!
Here’s the situation:
My father (divorced, not remarried) is paying for the entire wedding, and wants to be listed at a host on the invite (so no “together with their families…” will fly). He also wants my mother (remarried, now has the same last name as my stepfather, with whom I’m also very close) and stepfather to be listed out of manners. Additionally, I think we also need to list my groom’s parents (still married!), because they have contributed to some small things and will be instrumental logistically for that weekend (the wedding is in their part of the state and they are housing lots of people and have helped me plan throughout).
Most of this is confusing to me, but the part that is really perplexing me is how to address my mother and stepfather on one line, and then the married parents on the next without it seeming weird or sending the wrong message. I don’t think she would want to be simply “Mr. and Mrs. Stepfather’s Name”, and that doesn’t feel like we’re really acknowledging that she’s my mother. If we do list Mrs. Mother’s name and Mr. Stepfather’s name, then on the next line for the groom’s parents, do we just call them Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s father’s name? I am also not a fan of adding the groom’s parents names after my groom’s name (with “son of …”), especially since that would imply to me that my mother and father were both contributing to the wedding but the groom’s parent’s were not (since only my father is contributing).
Can anyone help me with the wording to be sure the invite projects the proper relationships between all of us (if that’s even possible!)? We’re probably going to follow up the roll call with something like “would be delighted to invite you…” but we can also change that wording so as not to imply that everyone is chipping in (would love if you could come celebrate the marriage of their children…” though I don’t want to take pains to spell out who exactly is paying, since that also seems somewhat tacky. I really appreciate any help and options that you all can give me!