Post # 1
I am a RN at a hospital. A few months back I befriended a new hospitalist MD on his first day of work. Since that time, we have always chatted when he’s doing consults on my unit – just general friendly stuff. He had a destination wedding a month ago – and planned to have a celebration party close to where we work so that his local friends/family could celebrate the wedding. Anyway – long story short: He invited my husband and I to the party. We RSVP’d no, but I am wondering if I need to get him a gift? Do I just send them a card? I was thinking about contributing $35 to their registery (for a home renovation project) but I didn’t want that monetary amount to seem to cheap? They also registered for some stuff at Macy’s. Anybody have any recommendations on what to do? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Give what you can afford. I bet they would prefer $35 on their renovation registry vs a $50 gift off of their macy’s registry.
Post # 5
You are certainly not obligated to give anything. However, I always leans towards giving in these situations. I would either donate to the renovation fund, or give a check. I know that we never thought any gift was too small when we got married. We just appreciated the thoughtfulness.
Post # 6
I think that when you RSVP no, any gift you give is nice.
Post # 7
I’d probably donate to the registry like you were considering doing. Since it is not the actual wedding reception and you are not attending the party, I wouldn’t worry too much about spending less on a gift than you normally would.
Post # 8
If you can afford it, give something towards the renovation. If not, a card will be sufficient.
Post # 9
I think that they would really appreciate something(anything!) towards the renovation fund. Thats where I would give
Post # 10
Were other people you work with invited? You could organize a group gift.
Post # 11
I really appreciate all the feedback! Super nice of everybody to respond – I will be contributing to their renovation fund 🙂 @AB Bride – I don’t know anyone else that was invited, but that is such a good idea. Thank you!
Post # 12
If this is a work relationship (you don’t really see each other socially) a card is completely appropriate. Or maybe go in with a group from work and chip in to purchase something off the registry or contribute to their home renovation fund.
Post # 13
Gifts are for people you have a close relationship with. When you are just casually acquainted – like a collegue, then a card is appropriate. If you generally get together outside of work, and you know the names of each other’s family members and pets, you’re probably close enough to send a gift.