Post # 1
My cousin (whom I’m not terribly close with) invited my FI & I to her wedding. My FI can’t make it cause he’ll be in Europe for his cousin’s wedding, but I’ll be attending (I’ll also have to travel for this). What is etiquette for gifts? Do I include his gift money as well even though he can’t attend? Or is it just for me?
Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Personally, if I already rsvp’d no for him, I would just add enough for me.
I usually go by the “pay for your plate rule”… which I always guess about $100. I once gave $75 because I was kinda broke.
Post # 4
I usually gift according to my budget, factoring in how close I am to the person (regardless of if I’m attending along or as +1).
Post # 5
If it’s just you, you just cover you
Post # 6
I would probably include him. He was invited too, and you’ll probably sign his name on the card. That being said, still don’t give more than you can afford.
Post # 7
I give everyone around the same dollar amount whether my fi is coming or not. I can only afford gifts that are $20 to $30.
Post # 8
Just give what you are able to afford.
Post # 10
Everyone is different give what you can afford weather its 20 dollars or one hundred dollars.
Post # 11
I automatically do $100 per person. If I am much closer with the couple then I have done more. I also think $100 per person was the average gift we got for our wedding and we were very happy even though it in no way went by the cover the plate rule.
Post # 12
We normally give $350 for a couple – $100 to pay for our plate (each) and a gift, maybe $160/80 for just yourself?
Post # 13
I also use the “pay for your plate method” plus some. You usually have enough notice with a wedding invite to budget for it and I like to think of it as helping the bride and groom to pay for the great party! include some for him even if you didn’t rsvp 🙂
Post # 14
Wow… Canadian Mermaid… want to come to my wedding?!?! j/k- very generous though! I would gift what you can. My FI and I are both broke, and our friends/family know it, so we gift what we can- regardless of if we are going. There is an old ediquitte rule that says that you are not required to give a gift even if you come, but you should if you are invited (regardless of if you go). So I would gift based on the two of you- from you as an engaged couple. I know for my brother’s wedding- his closest friends gave up to $300… but FI and I could only afford around $100 and a thoughtful handmade photo gift (I took photos of “letters” around the city I was living in and collaged them into our last name, printed it on a high quality printer and had my father make a handmade wooden frame for it). So it really depends on what you can do.
Post # 16
I would probably give $100 for just me. More if they were super close friends.