Post # 1
I was asked by a friend that I’ve lost touch with to be one of her bridesmaids. The only thing is, we’re not very close at all… we were roomates five years ago, and while we never had a “falling out,” we just moved to different cities and we’ve barely talked since then. She’s always been better friends with my FH, and still talks to him about once a month.
Though we’re not close anymore, I would say yes, but for the fact that I’m financially strapped now (planning my own wedding and just graduating from school, eek) and since this is going to be a “budgetless” wedding, I’m afraid of the financial implications of being a bridesmaid.
But, she doesn’t have very many girlfriends, she’s a very sweet girl, and I feel like saying no would probably really hurt her friendship with my FH. Sorry this is so long, but… any advice? I told her I’d get back to her asap about my decision…
Post # 3
Tell her you’re honored and would love to help as much as you can, as long as she understands that your budget is very limited and doesn’t expect too much money to be spent. That way you’ve covered your ass if she picks out a 300$ dress or wants you to throw her a 100 person bridal shower at an expensive restaurant.
Post # 5
“I am so flattered that you asked me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man but unfortunately I am not able to accept. If there is anthing else I can do to help please let me know.”
If she lets this affect her friendship with your FH, then she is the one who is responsible for that, not you.
Post # 6
Just say you’re honored and say you’re not sure because of your finances. She will either give you an out (“Oh, I totally understand. Don’t worry. I’ll be honored if you attend”) or in (“Oh, don’t worry, I’m paying for the dresses. Tell me if it will be ok!” or “I will make sure everything is affordable!”), or you will have to tell her later you decided no due to finances.