- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 1994
So, my husband and I eloped over the weekend!
I do feel a little bad we didn’t invite our loved ones (aside from our two friends who furfiled the task of officiant and photographer, both of whom we gave a small stipend to).
I know we have a few people who are sad we didn’t have a traditional wedding, and that we didn’t ask them to be there.
I am having a hard time communicating the reasons behind our decision. 1. My husband and I are both pretty private people, and the idea of sharing something so intimate in front of a bunch of people wasn’t something we were comfortable with. 2. I have health problems and we wanted to get married more quickly so that I could get decent care under his health insurance through his work. 3. Because of my health problems we really didn’t have the extra cash to throw an elaborate wedding. 4. The idea of planning an elaborate affair put me into a panic. 5. We didn’t think it would be fair to invite some people and not others.
No one has oughtright been upset. People have been very loving, supportive, and happy for us. I do feel as though I need to nurture in some way those whom seem a little distraught by it. What should I say?