(Closed) Etiquette Question

posted 6 years ago in LGBTQ
  • poll: Should we invite the significant others?
    Yes - You have to invite the significant others. Anything else would be rude. : (6 votes)
    10 %
    No - do not invite them, they're not part of the wedding party they'll have to deal. : (54 votes)
    89 %
    Inevitable other.... : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’d say that he is under no obligation to invite these guys. They aren’t part of the bridal party.

    Post # 4
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I wouldn’t invite them because they’re not part of the bridal party.

    Post # 5
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    10563 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I say no.  They aren’t part of the bridal so don’t need to be invited.  The best heterosexual example I can think of is the head table, the dates usually don’t sit there as well.

    Post # 6
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    532 posts
    Busy bee

    I agree, I would not invite them. The shave is a gift to his bridal party and the SOs are not part of the bridal party.

    Post # 6
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    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think if your guest is gay or hetero, and will not know anybody there, then they get a +1. 

    If you are engaged or live with the significant other, than you have a +1.

    If you want to, if your guest has been with their GF or BF for a long time ( you can set the time) and you know it’s going somewhere or you know it’s not a fling, then they get a +1

    If this person’s potential guest has offended you or FI in the past..no +1!!!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @jussanuthagrl:  I think your suggestions are fine for a wedding itself, but not for all the pre-wedding or getting ready events.

    Post # 8
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    2359 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i think it’s fine to invite them if they are in serious relationships, he doesn’t HAVE to, but if he gets along with their partners too, then why not….. maybe get the guy in the party to suggest to their partners, they can come if they want, but only the wedding party is haveing it payed for.  If he’s not that close with the partners, then no, i wouldn’t invite them.

    my FH’s best man has been in a relationship for 10 years, unmarried, and we’ve invited her to everything and she’s been great, and we really adore her.    i never met her before we picked our parties…. but my FH knew her.  

    Post # 10
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    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have been on the opposite end of this and trust me, they will be relieved not to be invited!

    Post # 11
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    19 posts
    Newbee

    oops. voted yes, but i meant NO!

    Post # 12
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    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If FICarnival was in a wedding and I wasn’t, I wouldn’t have the expectation to be included in the bride’s maids activities. I think you’re right on this one. Also, tell FI’s partner that they can coordinate, not match–it’s a fashion faux pas committed many a time by gay men and lesbians (I’ve been guilty of it myself).

    Post # 13
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    77 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think if they want to come along and also get shaves, then fine. But since they are not part of the wedding party then they have to pay their own. I think this is fair. 

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