Post # 1
This might seem like a silly post, but when DH asked me for advice I jokingly told him to post his question on the bee, and now he wants to see what y’all think he should do. So every year my husband has a week long business meeting for his PhD program. For the past 2 years he has shared a room with one colleague Phillip*. This year a different colleague, John* asked him if he wanted to be roomies. DH said sure and now feels bad because he thinks Phillip was probably expecting them to be roomies again. Should he tell John nvm or just stick to rooming with him since he already said yes.
Post # 3
it’s one week out of 52. just stay with john since you already agreed to it. stand up and be a man about it. stick by your word.
Post # 5
I would give Phillip a heads up and explain the situation depending on how close they actually are. Who knows… Phillip may not give a crap. It would be a nice courtesy to let Phillip know ahead of time so he can find a suitable roommate (assuming they have to share rooms), though.
Post # 7
Guys actually worry about this stuff? I learned something new today!
Post # 8
@Tatiana0622: How did it usually work with the colleague he shared a room with for 2 years? Who asked who or was it just assumed that it would be happening? Given he already agreed to share with the second guy, there isn’t really a way around it. I’m sure the first guy can find someone else to share with.
It does seem weird your partner would break tradition for no apparent reason but on the other hand it really isn’t that big of a deal.
Post # 9
@Tatiana0622: John already asked him so he should stay with John. He will be rude for backing out now. Just tell Phillip, hey I know we usually room together but John asked me a few weeks ago so I am rooming with him.
Post # 10
He should stick to rooming with John, but let Phil know soon so he can make his plans. But then he and Phil can get together for lunch/dinner/drinks while at the conference.
It’s not like this was their tradition for the past 5-10 years.
Post # 11
@Aquaria: hahaha, right?!
@MrsPanda99: Phillip asked him the past 2yrs.
Thanks for the quick replies ladies! I’ll let him know what you guys said!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
Why can’t all 3 share a room?
Post # 15
@Tatiana0622: If I were in your DH’s situation, I’d give Phillip a heads up and not make a huge deal of it.
Post # 16
… keep your word: room with John- but advise Philip ASAP out of courtesy.