Post # 1
My soon-to-be mother-in-law gave my finace her family heirloom ring for my wedding ring. It’s a really generous gesture and I’m extremely thankful. However, the ring doesn’t fit and it would cost more to get it resized than to buy a new weddng band. I’m assuming I should just be extremely grateful and accept it. How should I communicate my gratitude to my future MIL? Do I need to send a thank you letter?
Post # 3
@amexinlondon: You can never over thank someone, so if you want to send a thank you then do so. I don’t think it is required though. If anything hubs should be the one thanking her, since he is the one who received the gift from her, and then you from him.
Post # 4
So, is your question whether you should thank her, or whether you should use it?
I would just communicate it to her verbally how beatiful it is, and how much it means to you that she wanted to pass it down to you.
However, if you don’t want to use it either for stylistic or monetary reasons I would just tell her you aren’t going to use it. If it’s super expensive to resize, I would assume it’s quite a bit too small? Just explain that you don’t want to damage the integrity of the ring/change beyond what it’s meant to be, and assuming she’s still married, invite her to keep it safe on her own finger until one of your children (assuming you’re having them) gets married. Or that you’ll keep it until then if that’s ok with her??