Etiquette Re: Post-Wedding Brunch

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3841 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

DrKaz:   If you know for certain exactly WHO is staying at the hotel, and would be invited to the brunch, you can put the invitation in their envelope.  If you don’t know exactly who will be at the hotel, I’d suggest either inviting everyone, and hoping those driving home will decline, or make a set guest list and stick with it, no matter where they are staying.

Somehow the phrase “for our hotel guests” sounds off putting to me.

Post # 3
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

If it’s the same day as the wedding, it sounds like a reception? Is that what you’re aiming for? Then differentially inviting people would be very tacky, yes. If it’s just a brunch the day after, then traditionally those are reserved for very close friends and immediate family anyway. You may, however, be able to spread via word of mouth that guests staying in the hotel can join you as well. I wouldn’t put something on the website – that sounds a little rude. “You can keep the celebration going, but only if you shell out to stay at XYZ hotel!”

Post # 4
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

DrKaz:  Yes, that would be rude. You can’t send people an invitation to an event to which they are not invited.

Either invite all of your guests to the post-wedding brunch, send an invitation only to those staying at the hotel, or simply extend a word of mouth invitatation when you see people that weekend.

Post # 6
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


DrKaz:  If you are providing goodie bags for those guests that are staying at the hotel you can provide an insert that explains the brunch.

Most weddings that I have been to where I stayed at the hotel, I learned about the brunch from a card that was inside the goodie bag that was placed in my hotel room…….


Post # 7
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If you’re in my situation, we had to give a headcount to the hotel for the brunch, so we needed RSVPs in advance. My stepmom sent out an invitation to our next day brunch that was separate from the wedding invitation. She sent it to all the guests on our list, and as far as I know it worked out that only the folks staying over night are planning to come. I agree with your mom that the chances of someone coming back for brunch – if they’re not staying at the hotel – are pretty minimal.

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