Post # 1
Hi there Bees,
I need to decide how to indicate on our save the dates that children are invited. The problem is that not ALL children are invited, only those of family members, which means we can’t just make a general statement on the STD itself. This leaves the options of either including their names on the envelope or adding an insert of some kind. A third option I thought of is maybe adding an inner envelope to only the families whose children we’re inviting, since there are only five families.
So my questions are:
1) Would it be weird to only include an inner envelope with some STD’s?
2) If we did an insert, what should it say? Just that their kids are invited or should it be kind of a stand-in inner envelope and list everyone’s names?
3) If we just add their names on the envelope, there is one family with too many kids to list all the names, so we would have to format it like “The Smith Family” I think; however, the couple has the same last names, but some of the kids have a different last name. How would that go? Does saying “The Smith family” leave out the two Johnson kids? Is “The Snith/Johnson Family” weird if both adults are Smith?
Tricky, though seemingly trivial! Your help will be appreciated!
Post # 3
I wouls say list all names, and if you cannot, as in the last example (if all of the children in that crew are invited) I would say “and family” (Maybe and household) presuming they are all considered a family, even though they have last names. WOuld this help?
Post # 4
@nl: Thanks! I like the “and family” idea as opposed to “The Smith Family.” I think the kids with the other last name would be less likely to feel left out or offended that way.
Post # 5
I would say “The Smiths and family” I would assume that they consider themselves a family even if they have different names?
Post # 6
Save the dates aren’t invitations. You don’t need to delineate specific family members on the STD, just address the invitations to those invited when the time comes. If they can’t find a baby sitter in 3 months, well… that’s a whole ‘nother issue, haha. But if you feel you need to give them a heads up, I agree with previous posters, just address the envelopes to those invited “and family”.
Post # 7
@Bbrankley: Thanks for the input. I thought that as well, but when I looked it up I found so many sources who disagreed that I started-second guessing. I guess it’s up to us if we want to extend the extra courtesy of giving them more advanced notice. I think I’ll consult with my fiance’s family to see what they think.
Post # 8
@Mrs2B000: I wouldn’t bother with the formality of inner envelopes. I would just write a little note on the STD’s to the applicable families ” We’d love for Jason and Sara to celebrate with us too.”
Post # 9
I literally just put the name of one person on the save-the-date. Like other bees said, it’s not a formal invitation so the idea is to inform them that a wedding is coming. That’s it.