Post # 1
Backstory: we are having a luncheon for our closest family and friends at 11 am. That night we are planning on going clubbing in Vegas.
I’ve been told estimates for anywhere from 1k-3500 for bottle service and a booth at a club. We have about 20-25 people that will be coming with us.
Now, here’s the question…Do I need to cover ALL of that expense for the club goers? I understand that if we were to have a reception, I would still be covering some of the expense…so can I do that here as well??
I’ve got a hook up at one of the clubs that will get us in for free, but most likely can’t help me on the bottle/booth issue…
Now, if you were one of the club goers that night and asked I you to cover a little bit of the bottle/booth would you be highly offended? Understand a little??
Help me out please?!?!?!
Post # 3
If you call it an ‘after party’ you don’t have to pay for anything according to everything I’ve read :).
Post # 4
Just so I understand a little more clearly, the bottle service for the entire night would run you 1k-3500 for all 25 people?
Post # 5
@stephinPA – yes, that’s what i’m assuming. regardless that is about a 1/3 of what I paid for the entire wedding…so I’m not too comfortable paying the ENTIRE 3500 if that’s what it ends up being. If it’s like 1k…DH and I could probably cover that…
Post # 6
bump for the evening crowd! 🙂 thanks!! 🙂
Post # 7
Is this the price for one particular club or did you ask around, cos that seems to be a lot of money. Also just curious will all your family be comfortable going clubbing? because if not you could just have a sit down meal at a restaurant instead.
Post # 8
That sounds like fun! If I was invited and you called it an after party I would expect to pay my own way. if it is a wedding event I would expect it to be hosted.
Post # 9
@bells nope, it’s basically my wedding party and their significant others…not my family. yep…it’s the going rate at the clubs…200-400 per bottle and they require you get a bottle for every 3 people….
@diy-er i haven’t really called it anything yet. hahaha! i think we called it wedding night party-ing…
Post # 10
I might be in the minority here, but depending on how much the wedding party has already spent on wedding activities, I would cover the entire thing. Otherwise, I would give them a heads up and the option to opt out. I would not be happy after spending hundreds on a dress, hair, shoes, shower, wedding gift, etc. and then be expected to spend another $100-200 for an “after party”. In my personal opinion, that’s asking a lot of the people in your wedding party. Aren’t there bars that you can go where you can just pay for what you drink? That I can totally understand, but shelling out several hundred dollars for an event that you chose, not so much. Nevermind the fact that I wouldn’t exactly be carrying around that much cash, ever.
Post # 11
i wouldn’t expect you to cover the entire cost, but unless your bridal party is all pretty well off, why not skip the bottle service?
Post # 12
Just to help us have a better concept… is this a group of buddies that commonly go out clubbing together… and so they won’t think a thing of it being an after party event, and will see being asked to pitch in their money in advance as actually saving money. I’m not really a big clubber, so that sounds pricey to me… but that could also be because I’m a small town girl. That being said, I have done the after party wedding routine, and it wasn’t a big deal to just pay your own way. But the other puzzle, I see is that you mentioned it was a friend only event. If you have a large group of family members travelling in for your special day, they may be hurt that you excluded them from a part of the celebration. I don’t think you have to feel like you must pay for everything, but for non wedding related events that you want guests to know about… you can let people know casually something like… we thought we’d go to … we’re leaving at … you can come along with us or meet us there if you’d like!
Post # 13
ok more backstory. we are having a SUPER small, very intimate 46 person wedding. In Vegas. On a Tuesday. ( it would have been on whatever day of the week, I love th # 111, so we’re getting married on 1-11-11)
@Krises – the only people from his family that are flying in are his parents. I’ve asked my cousins who are closer to my age, if they’d like to join in and most of them are leaving right after the wedding luncheon and heading back to LA (4 hour drive)
As bridesmaids gift, I’ve already bought hair and makeup for the wedding day, along with their wedding jewelry, wedding clutch, another fun necklace and will be getting them all flats for the clubbing as well.
For the groomsmen we’ve decided that all of them will get straight shaves in the morning along with me purchasing their ties for them (in order for them to save a little cash, we decided on doing whatever gray suits they had)
The reason for going to a club is I want the girls and I to be able to dance. Hence, why going to a bar/lounge not really feasible.
And all my wedding party are scattered around the US. I’ve not been thrown any bridal showers, no bachleourette parties. nothing.
@kitzy, in order to get a booth, you MUST purchase bottle service. And the boys will DEFT want to sit down.
@missbliss most of the wedding party are my best firends but we all live on like oppostie sides of the US. I have a bridesmaid from Savannah, Oregon, Wisconsin and a bridesman from FL. We are all photogs. So when we get togheter at covwntions and what not..we deft party it up.
Does that help a paint a better picture??