Post # 1
Our friend’s wedding in October and we’ve known for a month or so that it would be touch-and-go as to whether they could hold it in their church as it was undergoing renovations which sounded like they were running overtime. They decided to send out the invites regardless, with the hope that they’d still be able to hold the ceremony there.
Last week, FH & I got invited to a facebook group from the groom, informing us that the church had been changed and to reply so they knew we’d received it. Done. Earlier today, groom posts a message that “just to remember it’s 1.30 sharp, bride will be walking down the aisle at 1.35 so make sure you’re early!”. Chuckled slightly. Just now? Bride posts “Further to groom’s post, aim to get there early to find a park”
I don’t really mind too much, although I do think the last two messages were somewhat unnecessary, but all I could think about was the convulsions the etiquette snobs (I love you btw, just can’t think of another name for you! haha) on here would be in 😛
I do think there were slightly more appropriate ways to impart said information 😉
Post # 3
@goingtotherooftopoflove: the bride and groom were just showing their own personality! I love that!
Post # 4
@goingtotherooftopoflove: I totally feel that. I posted little notes about being on time in a few different places on our website, reminded people that it can be hard to park nearby, and phrased my invitations as “begin gathering at” 15 minutes before our start time. PUNCTUALITY RULES!! 😛
Post # 5
Don’t get me wrong… I have nothing against the message (I was the first to arrive at my friend’s wedding last year, and I knew that we weren’t going to have to worry about parking), it was the means of delivery I was having a chuckle at! moreso because it seems that according to some bees, updates via facebook, for any purpose, are totally not on 😛
Post # 6
For some bees, anything short of a letterpress note thoughtfully tucked into a contrast lined envelope with at least 3 inserts and delivered via trained dove is tacky and looks cheap.
Post # 7
THANK YOU. Someone who gets my point! lol.
Post # 9
If it’s a status update that all 5,482 “best friends” will see, then yeah it’s inappropriate. If it’s a group message to only those invited, I don’t see a problem. Most people are on Facebook regularly, and it’s the fastest way to disseminate information. Social media is here for the long haul, so we might as well learn to use it in an acceptable manner. Their wedding is next month. She could either send new announcements to everyone telling them where the new location is, and hope everyone gets the announcement and reads it; or send an update electronically and know they saw it.
Post # 10
Wow. I actually find some of the comments regarding etiquette, and those of us who choose to follow it, to be very rude. I don’t go out of my way to call people who don’t follow etiquette rude, even though it is (etiquette is accepted practices designed to make guests comfortable) – I don’t really get why it’s okay to have open season on people who follow these guidelines and rules. ANYWAY…
Personally, as someone who really follows etiquette, I don’t find the Facebook messages incredible rude, unless they blast-posted everyone that they’re “friends” with. It’s not what I would have done, but it’s also not the worst thing in the world. It was an uncomfortable situation, I’m sure, and this was the way they saw to do it best. It wasn’t as old-fashioned as calling each guest individually, but at least they took the time to make sure their guests received the message (and by requiring the response, they did ensure that the message was received).
Post # 12
@Bracelet00: *hides keepsake wedding invitation and cries*