Post # 1
Hello! I’ve got a question for the lgbtq community about same-sex etiquette. Let me first start by saying that I adore my sister and her (female) fiance and the last thing in the world I want to do is upset them in any way. Also, sis and my best friend are my two MOH’s since I couldn’t choose between them (all three of us are best friends) and they are splitting duties. Friend Maid/Matron of Honor is planning the bachelorette. So here’s my question!
Friend Maid/Matron of Honor is starting to ask for my bach. guest list. Of course, I’ve put my sis along with all of my other girlfriends on the list. My only question is… would it be rude to NOT invite her fiance, or really weird if I DID invite her? Because no one else will have their SO’s at the party… but sis’s Fiance is a female friend (granted, not that close of a friend to me personally) And I’m asking this because I really just don’t know what to do. The last thing I want to do is insult them!!!! But I’m not sure which option would be insulting! Should I just ask sis what she would prefer?? AHH! I’m just so confused….
Post # 3
I’m not in a same-sex relationship so not sure if you want to hear my opinion or not but I definitely would invite her! She’s female and if it’s a female only function, then why not? I would think by not inviting her, it comes across as though you’re treating her like a male, which she’s clearly not.
Post # 4
Definitely invite her! The only reason SO’s aren’t included is because they’re boys.
Post # 5
My best friend and future sister in law are both gay. I’m inviting both of their partners. They can decide if they want to go or not. I think giving them a choice is best.
Post # 6
Excellent points, everyone! It looks like the decision is pretty unanimous. Thanks!
Post # 8
Invite her. She can decline if she feels she doesn’t want to attend because she’s not friends w/you; only your sister’s fiancee. Let it be her call.
Post # 9
Did you end up inviting your sister’s fiancee to the bachelorette party? It may be a little late to respond, but my feeling is this, you should definitely invite your sister’s fiancee to the wedding, but it’s not necessary to invite her to the bachelorette party unless you know your sister’s fiancee well and she’s become your friend too. If you know her pretty well, then it’s nice to invite her out of courtesy, but again, not necessary.