Post # 1
My FI and I are considering a January wedding with approximately 50 guests (all family). We’ve moved around a lot and are both from different countries so a lot of our guests will be travelling. I stumbled across this little Inn convenient to where my FI and I live that offers a winter wedding package, and bonus… the property looks great!
The base price includes the cost of all 18 rooms booked for a two night stay which I initially thought was super cool as so many of our guests will have to travel. Each additional guest in attendance that is not staying at the inn is an additional $75pp.
My question for you Bees is, would you WANT to stay with guests or is this a little too close for comfort? As most guests will have about 5-8hrs travel time if driving and some would have to fly in, is it proper etiquette to compensate for the cost of their lodging? (I’m totally oblivious) Or at the very least, because the cost of 18 rooms would be included in our wedding costs, should we somehow compensate our guests that would have to stay elsewhere?
Any tips, opinions or feedback is appreciated! 🙂 I’m pretty interested in this place, or a similar set-up but don’t know if paying for rooms is going above and beyond, expected or something in between! Even anyone’s .02 as to whether or not this is even a good deal is also more than welcomed!
Post # 3
That sounds awesome :). Eighteen rooms is a lot–you can give them to the wedding party and close family, but if word gets out you might piss people off who don’t get ‘free’ rooms, just be warned!
You’re not obligated to provide lodging, but it’s nice if you can afford it (please note: I don’t personally know anyone who could!). It’s most definitely above and beyond :).
I think it’s kind of cool that you would get to stay with your guests leading up to the wedding (find somewhere else for the wedding night if you want to…you know :)). It sounds like a great set-up overall, though!
Post # 4
@jo.lee: Thank you for the feedback! In all honesty, we can’t technically afford to pay for lodging but because this package would include it, I wouldn’t feel comfortable asking for reimbursement from guests.
The whole dynamic with not being able to provide everyone with accommodations is what worries me, as not all… but defffinitely some family members are a little high maintenance/not so understanding at times… I think a little customization as far as the accommodations side of things is needed!
Post # 5
We stayed at a place with majority of our guests and loved it. It was great to have everyone close and it really maximized our time with them. We did end up asking people to reimburse us for the rooms and no one batted an eye, they were just happy the leg work was done and they didn’t have to figure it out for themselves! We prioritized our wedding party and immediate family (we had 12 condos to fill) and then opened it up, first come first serve, to other guests (we emailed everyone the same day so they all knew the deal). After the 12 were filled we sent another email with list of nearby places to stay.
Having everyone so close all weekend was fun and really gave people a chance to spend time together and get to know each other before the main event. It also eliminated the need to provide transportation or worry about people drinking and driving. I highly recommend it.
Post # 6
@ladyox: I’m sold! I like that idea… I couldn’t for the life of me imagine a way bring up cost of room/reimbursement or how we would make the final call as to who would stay on-site beyond our expected VIP. I definitely couldn’t see any family having any objections this way. Thank you!
Post # 7
I love having everyone stay close by. We picked a venue which sleeps about two dozen, and are inviting our wedding party to stay with us. We are, however, asking for some reimbursement. We haven’t priced it yet, but it’ll probably be less than hotel lodging in the area (and almost everyone is from out of town, so people would be paying for hotels otherwise).
To be honest, I am slightly uncomfortable with the idea of asking for room reimbursement, but we did go to one wedding where they did that. They had rented out a villa in Italy and we were invited to stay on site for up to a week, with a given price per night. We certainly didn’t have an issue with it, and I don’t think anyone else did, either. Our venue has also told us that almost 100% of couples get some reimbursement from the guests who stay on-site.