Post # 1
My mother and her boyfriend of two years are hosting a reception for my fiance and I. They have lived together for 2 years and everyone in the family knows him. When putting our engagement announcement in the paper, do we include her boyfriend?? I don’t want him listed before my dad…how would that be worded?
Mr. Dad Lastname and Ms. Mother Differentlastname along with Mr. Significantother, announce the engagement of their daughter (I’m not Mr. Significant other’s daughter…) to Fiance Lastname, son of Mr. and Mrs. Remarried, and Mr. Father In Law and Ms. Newwifebutnowthey’redivorcedbutstilllivetogetheramicably….
See my dilemma? Let me know if I need to decode this…
In other words, my mom and dad are divorced. My dad is not remarried. My mom lives with her boyfriend who is helping to pay for reception. My fiance’s parents are divorced. MIL is remarried. FIL was remarried but now they’re divorced but still live together amicably. They share a last name….
Post # 2
Mr. Dad PickleJean and Ms. Mother DifferentPickle and her partner, Mr. FirstName Olive, announce the engagement of their daughter MISS PICKLEJEAN to MR Name BEET, son of Mr. Father Beet and Mrs. Mother Beet and her partner Mr. Name Coleslaw.
Ugh. What a pickle. Just list everyone’s first and last names.
Wait, are your FFIL and his newly divorced but still living together exwife actually ‘together’ or are they just living together? Just list her full name on there too if you need to include her.
Or put, The families of Miss PickleJean and Mr. FirstName Beet are thrilled to announce…yada yada engagement.
Post # 3
jlc3: Haha! Love what you did with pickles and olives. I think the last sugesstion is the best…The families of Miss PicklJean and Mr. FirstName Beet…. Thanks so much… and yes, they are now together. They were married for ten, divorced for 2ish, and now they’re back together but not remarried…oy!
Post # 4
MissPickleJean: When a lady and a gentleman are living together, the strictest etiquette requires that they be treated exactly as if they are married. As with invitations, a married lady issues social-page advertisements in the name of herself and optionally her husband. A lady’s name is properly paired only with a gentleman’s name only if they are (currently) married.
None of that magically turns her uhm-husband into your father. The most correct wording is:
Mr. Significant Other and Ms. Mother Differentlastname announce the engagement of her daughter, Jean, daughter of Mr. Dad Picklejean; to Mr. Fiance Lastname, son of Mr. Father Inlaw, and of Mrs. Givenname Remarried.
The possessive pronoun “her” is used explicitly to avoid suggesting that you are the daughter of Mr. Significant Other. Equally properly the wording could be,
Mrs. Mother Differentlastname announces the engagement of her daughter, Jean Picklejean, daughter of Mr. Dad Picklejean; to Mr. Fiance Lastname, son of Mr. Father Inlaw, and of Mrs. Givenname Remarried.
You have the option of inserting your surname after your given name, to avoid the ambiguity that arises when parents have different surnames, or of leaving your surname off because it is “obviously” the same as that of your dad.