Etiquette/Wording for Engagement Announcement in the Paper

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1274 posts
Bumble bee

Mr. Dad PickleJean and Ms. Mother DifferentPickle and her partner, Mr. FirstName Olive, announce the engagement of their daughter MISS PICKLEJEAN to MR Name BEET, son of Mr. Father Beet and Mrs. Mother Beet and her partner Mr. Name Coleslaw. 

Ugh. What a pickle. Just list everyone’s first and last names. 

Wait, are your FFIL and his newly divorced but still living together exwife actually ‘together’ or are they just living together? Just list her full name on there too if you need to include her. 

Or put, The families of Miss PickleJean and Mr. FirstName Beet are thrilled to announce…yada yada engagement. 



Post # 4
1678 posts
Bumble bee

MissPickleJean:  When a lady and a gentleman are living together, the strictest etiquette requires that they be treated exactly as if they are married. As with invitations, a married lady issues social-page advertisements in the name of herself and optionally her husband. A lady’s name is properly paired only with a gentleman’s name only if they are (currently) married.

None of that magically turns her uhm-husband into your father. The most correct wording is:

Mr. Significant Other and Ms. Mother Differentlastname announce the engagement of her daughter, Jean, daughter of Mr. Dad Picklejean; to Mr. Fiance Lastname, son of Mr. Father Inlaw, and of Mrs. Givenname Remarried.

The possessive pronoun “her” is used explicitly to avoid suggesting that you are the daughter of Mr. Significant Other. Equally properly the wording could be,

Mrs. Mother Differentlastname announces the engagement of her daughter, Jean Picklejean, daughter of Mr. Dad Picklejean; to Mr. Fiance Lastname, son of Mr. Father Inlaw, and of Mrs. Givenname Remarried.

You have the option of inserting your surname after your given name, to avoid the ambiguity that arises when parents have different surnames, or of leaving your surname off because it is “obviously” the same as that of your dad.


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