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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    We are getting married at a church and having our reception at a country club.  The distance between the two is about 4 miles on surface streets in the suburbs and directly between the two are the hotels. 

    Originally, I just thought we would get a stretch limo for our whole wedding party (13 of us), but my FI didn't like the idea of everyone going together, he thought we should be on our own and my parents also don't really get the idea of having the wedding party in the limo.  When my parents got married they had their own limo and the wedding party drove to the reception location (albeit this was 40 years ago). 

    I'm rethinking this and I would really like to get a vintage Rolls Royce.  The price is fine, but it wouldn't be able to fit anyone other than my FI and I. I think it would also be wonderful for pictures.

    I've actually never been in a wedding party where the wedding party was provided transportation, especially when all of the events are so close together. 

    What do you ladies think?

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    Same boat here!  I'm not really a stretch limo kinda gal and I've always wanted to get a vintage rolls royce... So I'm having one!  I told my wedding party that they would be driving and they said that it's really okay with them.  The church and reception are a mile apart so it's not a big deal, I suppose.  The distance is just four miles, I don't think that they would mind.  I mean personally, if I was your BM, I wouldn't mind driving at all :)

     

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    That's great!  I see you are in LA  - who are you using?  We are thinking of going with Classy Chassy - I haven't even seen any other companies out there like them, but they have great reviews.

     

     
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    bloodgo1    May 14, 2010   Royal Oak

    yeah i was really conflicted on this issue.

    i really like the idea of the send off plus i wanted to save some money by not having to invest in a stretch limo. but when i ran the idea by my MOH she acted like that was not a good idea. the places are very close together. the hotels are less than a mile from the reception site and the reception site to the ceremony is like 5 miles. she said that since a lot of the wedding party are not bringing dates they would have no one to drive them home after drinking so it would be a good idea to have a limo so they can be dropped off at their hotel.

    i get it and it is what i ended up doing, but i don't like that i have to miss out on the idea of a send off. oh well!

     
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    jackie-o    October 31, 2010   Seattle, WA

    FH and I teetered back and forth re: transportation. Long story short this is what we’re doing….We are having First Look pictures.  FH and I have a vintage British Cab and that will drive us around the city for 2 hrs then drop us at our venue.  We got our wedding party a Party Bus that will meet FH and I for the last 30 minutes of our First Look photos.  Then the Party Bus will take the wedding party to the Venue.  At the end of the night we’re all riding from the Venue to the Hotels on the charter bus that we rented for our OOT guests (90+% of our guests are from OOT.)

    There are options - - the trick for us was that certain companies have a minimum of x amount of hours….OY

     
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    Lili316    May 1, 2010   Fort Worth, TX

    I think it just comes down to which option works better for you personally.  I've seen many weddings where the wedding party rode together from the ceremony site to the reception site, and the pictures of everyone drinking champagne and having fun are really cute.  However, it's definitely not expected, and if you want some alone time with your FI, you should totally go for that.  I think being mindful of the fact that people, especially the wedding party, will be drinking and may not want to drive is always good, but they are adults and its their responsibility to watch their alcohol consumption if necessary.

     
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    mynn    October 23, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    In my area, it seems like it is the norm for the bride and groom to provide transporation for the entire bridal party from the ceremony to the reception. However, after that, they are on their own. Because of this, I booked a limo bus to get all 14 of us from the church to the photo site and then to the reception.

     

    We also booked a block of rooms at a hotel that provides free shuttle service for guests to and from the reception. That way if anyone wants to drink, they can shuttle and not worry about driving!

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    @mrsl:  I am using agate limousine.  The owner gave me a good deal because his limo company is a preferred vendor of our reception venue.  I did look at classy chassy but I thought they were expensive.  Love their extras, though! :)  champagne and choco-dipped strawberries?  What's not to love?! :)

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I believe that I read somewhere that it is proper etiquette to provide transport for the WP.

    Whether or not you follow this "rule" is up to you!

    I am really excited for the WP travels in the limo - it will be a blast and will include champagne!!!! :-)

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    @msq - cheaper than Classy Chassis?  That sounds wonderful - I am going to check them out assuming they service the northern LA burbs!

     

    Thanks ladies for the advice!  I'm not concerned about the drinking and driving since the reception site is literally 2 miles from the hotel and we will have taxis waiting.  Also, the church is two miles from the hotels, so its all really close together.  While having everyone together would be fun, my FI wants alone time (I'm actually really surprised, I thought for sure he wanted us to be with everyone).

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    I think for a wedding it is very fitting for the bride and groom to go on their own.  I've been in a few weddings and have had both experiences, where the entire wedding party is in a stretch limo, and where the bride and groom had their own limo.  I think either one is fine, and I am sure everyone in your bridal party will be understanding of your choice.

     
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    msqthoney    April 10, 2010   Los Angeles, California

    @mrsl:  Yes, they are cheaper than classy chassy.  They do service the northern LA burbs.  I think they are based on SF valley where we are getting married :) I don't know how north you are though.  Are you talking about Palmdale/Lancaster area?  BTW, ask for Leo.

     
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    owlbride    October 10, 2009   Houston

    The traditional ettiquette is for the bride and groom to provide transportation for the bridal party. BUT, that doesn't mean that you need to provide them with a limo. If they're from out of town and don't have a car, just make sure ahead of time that they have a ride to the ceremony, to the reception, and back to the hotel :)

     
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    WindyCityBride    September 25, 2010   Chicago, IL

    We ended up renting a trolley.  Our ceremony is at a church and the reception is at a country club.  The trolley will pick the girls up at my parents' house, then drive the whole wedding party downtown for pictures, and then to the country club. 

     

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