Ettiquette question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

slc1459:  Have you talked to your children to see how they would feel about it? Would you have out-of-town friends/relatives that would be invited to both?

Post # 3
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913 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Why would you even think of doing that?  I’m getting married a second time too but I could not even imagine doing that to any one of our 5 kids! We planned it purposely to not be around anyone’s birthday or anniversary. 

Im assuming you are helping with their wedding? Planning 2 weddings at once? are you going on a honeymoon after and won’t be around to help them? Or are you just going to the courthouse? 

Sorry, but honestly it seems very selfish, self centered and wanting to steal the limelight from them!! Do it at LEAST 1 month after. 

Post # 4
Member
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

why can’t you wait until 3 weeks after?  if you’re asking you already know the answer.

Post # 5
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3934 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

slc1459:   That’s too close and putting yours first sends a message that you may not intend to send.  If there is guest list overlap, guests (especially those travelling any distance) may feel they have to choose one wedding voer the other. 

It would be considerate to guests and children alike to separate the weddings by several months.

Not to mention ease of planning – even small weddings seem to have endless details and will require full attention of all involved.  

Post # 6
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Since there would most likely be a large amount of overlapping guests I would say 3 weeks is definitely too close.

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