- 7 years ago
First let me formally introduce myself; My name is Phoenix, I’m 27 and have been with my 36 year old BF for almost 4 years now and living together for 8 months. We both have 4 year old girls from previous relationships (his a marriage where his ex wanted a divorce 4 months after their daughter was born and I was engaged to my daughter’s father but found out he had been cheating during my pregnancy and left him. He moved across the country with his family. ) Because of the nature of our past relationships and love of our kids we moved very slowly- not introducing our children to eachother for almost 3 years and then getting our own apartment right at the 3 year mark. Things have been great and living together has been a breeze. I have my daughter full time and my mother babysits her at her house when I’m at work. He has his daughter on the weekends. The two girls get along great aside from typical sibling bickering. I get along awesome with his daughter and my daughter likes him a lot.
We discussed marriage when we moved in…he said “I want to get married, I’m just not in a huge rush.” He is very marriage oriented which is a miracle considering how ugly his divorce was. I’m extremely close to his family and he does drop little hints (and jokes) here and there about what kind of ring hes gonna give me, but we haven’t directly talked about it since we moved in…he’s the kind of guy who responds very negatively to pressure…he knows I want to get married and I’m not at the “resentful” stage yet where its really starting to affect me, so it’s not time for “the talk” yet. I will probably initiate the talk at the one year mark of living together but right now I’m silently waiting. You ladies know how it is…some days are easier than others. 🙂
Well my daughter came home from preschool and made the most adorable picture there. The picture is called “My family” and it has four cutouts on it- two adults and two children. Obviously the teachers labeled the family members on it for her, but she told them it’s “Mommy, Daddy, Emma (his daughter), and Marissa (her). I shed a tear. lol. I texted him the picture and of course, in typical guy fashion he just replied “Cute stuff babe.” I replied back “I love you. Thank you for the past 8 months. I hope they have been as rewarding for you.” He texted back “Love you babe. Have a good night. Gotta go back to work.” I wanted to reach through the phone and strangle him! 🙂 I’m trying to rationalize it that he’s just busy with work and can’t get drawn into a huge emotional scenario. He does get emotional with me at times but it’s always on his schedule…he can’t do it on cue. lol. sigh. anyway, today might be one of those rough days….:-P