Even parties… vent

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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437 posts
Helper bee

we’re JUST at this stage too!  we’re doing a DW, so 3/4 girls have committed and 4/4 guys have.  the BM on my side who hasn’t yet JUST had a baby and she has a lot going on.  i told her that i’d hold the spot and if she can come, great, and if she can’t, that’s okay too.

FI is also saying that uneven sides looks weird.  but the thing is, i don’t want to throw just “anyone” on my side to even things out.  we don’t know for sure if my BM can come, but now that we’ve added the info on the website, we’ve already had people ask about our uneven numbers lol *facepalm*

i’m starting to realize that weddings somehow remove people’s filters haha.  sheesh. 

Post # 3
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

BeezWaxx:  I’m not officially planning yet, but my SO and I have discussed this in depth — he has two good friends he would want to stand up for him, but they’re completely unreliable and a bit uncouth when it comes to being in public (sounds worse than it is, probably). Either way, he doesn’t think he can count on them to be helpful, and I have three — two girls and a guy. I think all of them would love to help out, but my guy friend lives out of state and my girlfriends are both elementary school teachers who are constantly worried about money — I don’t want to put any planning/financial onuses on them. So we have been discussing nixing the wedding party altogether as it seems nice that we would be up there alone (with the officiant). 

Have you considered going without a wedding party or is your FI against that? Also, for the record, I don’t think it matters as long as they’re the people you want up there 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

BeezWaxx:  You’re welcome & I hope everything works out! You can always have everyone sit together for the reception too, even if they aren’t standing up at the ceremony. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We’re having very uneven bridal parties (me 6 and him 2) and it hasn’t bothered me in the slightest. I think it’ll make the pictures look a little more interesting! I wasn’t willing to cut down my bridal party and he wasn’t willing to add to his, so to each his own :). 

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