Post # 1
We are getting married on Oct. 11, 2012 which is a Thursday. We choose this day because 1) it is 10-11-12 and 2) week day weddings are much more inexpensive. Now the delema we are having is whether to have an early afternoon wedding or evening. The ceremony and the reception are in the same space so we don’t need to worry about transportation time between them both. We would love an early wedding because the space has an outdoor grassy space where we could set up a few tables with cards or chess and a battmittin net for the guests to use after the ceremony during the reception. Also the road to the venue is a dirt twisty road which may not be the best for my older guest to drive on later when its dark. The problem with an early wedding is that our day is a Thrusday where some guests still have to work and may not make it for that reason. Also we have guests who would love to party late into the evening but we can’t afford to book the venue past the alloted time, so we would have to find a place for an after party. Also, it being in Colorado and in the mountains we can get some lovely evening sunset pictures.
Any opinions on which time works best and then what exact time we should use?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I think it comes down to what is most important to you. Do you value having an earlier wedding with the option of setting up outside activities and taking gorgeous outdoor pictures before the sun sets? Or do you value having a party that goes later into the evening and that accommodates more of your guests? Whatever is most important to you and your Fiance is what you should go with. It sounds like you would prefer the early time slot, but are mainly concerned about guests being able to come. I think you just have to decide what’s more important to you. 🙂
Post # 4
I personally loathe evening weddings…and being in an evening wedding recently further cemented this. And it’s really because things get drug out SOOOOOOOOO long, and by the time dinner hits, I’m ready to hit the floor from exhaustion. A 5-6PM ceremony is likely not going to be serving dinner until around 8/830PM, I think thats entirely too late to be eating a large meal like that. In my general circle, I’ve also noted that people tend to leave receptions of late weddings right after dinner, whereas if the reception is over at 8-9PM, they tend to stay until the end. Whats the norm in your social/family circle? With your wedding being on a Thursday, if you did something in the evening would that mean that most of your guests could still work or at least get a half day in before coming to the wedding? I have no idea where you live, but traffic/rush hour is always something to think about when planning an afternoon/evening wedding, you don’t want your guests to be late because they got caught in traffic!
Post # 5
In comparison to marylandnurse, I hate weekday weddings because they usually involve having to take more time off from work. It’s substantially less expensive for the bride and groom so I understand it, but it puts more of a burden on guests. That being said, I’d say go with a night wedding. An afternoon wedding basically forces every one of your guests to take Thursday off from work, rather than maybe working a half-day or even a full-day if they live close enough. I live in the DC area where traffic is a complete nightmare, so having an afternoon wedding basically lumps all your guests into the evening rush hour (which basically starts at 3 and goes until 7 for us).
Just my opinion, so do what works best for you!
ETA: I have turned down going to Sunday afternoon weddings for this exact reason. I generally have to travel to get to a wedding (my family is all in New England, FI’s family is all in South Florida, and we’re in DC), and it forces me to take time off from work. I can usually manage a Friday night wedding, but if it’s a Sunday, I almost never go. (Just another thought)
Post # 6
I am having a Friday evening wedding. We did this for many reasons (cost, availability, etc). We were not thinking about guest incovnience because we know the people who want to be there will make an effort to be there. I LOVE evening weddings and have never had a bad experience. It’s no different than attending an evening gala, holiday party, or awards banquet that takes place in the evening. Yeah it’s late, but who complains about food they are not paying for? It’s one time out of the year and a very special occasion. So if they have to take time off of work to be there, then so be it! If they know ahead of time, they can use a vacation day if it’s worth it to them. If your guests are up in arms about the time of day, then they don’t have to come!
But just remember, this day is about YOU two. The people who love and support you will be there no matter what!